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writes:my wife left me, along with her she took another man. well, a couple of months later she is back and with plenty of patiance from me we are attempteing to work things out. my question is how can i tell she is sincere especially when she seems to avoid intimate times with me ? when we have time to be intimate she falls asleep ? she would rather spend time on puter than with me, Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2008): are you sure she is "avoiding" having intimate times with you? could it be that due to her leaving you and being with another,you might be reading more into her "falling asleep". my husband for 11 years never took the time to listen or talk with me,always busy,always working, and he spent his share of time on the puter. attention and affection from him came less and less. i had a hard time communicating to him about how i felt(didn't want to argue)so i would write him letters, telling him EXACTLY how i felt,but i never gave them to him. when i left him and was with another, he found my breifcase of "hate" and "hurting"letters,and read them and relized just how much and how long i was trying to reach out to him. i'm back home,and he is the man i met 11 years ago. never been more prouder of him than i am now. (she wouldn't be back home with you if she wasn't sincere-in your arms she must feel safe, secure and knows u love her...)
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (17 August 2008):
 I agree with purple1234 completely, but I would like to add something else.
I think the two of you should go to a couple's councelour to solve and save your marriage. What has happend to the two of you is pretty serious and trying to work it out is a big step that you might need help with.
Please try out a couple's councelour to help the two of you get through this. You don't lose anything with trying.
I hope that your relationship is mended with time. Good luck.
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