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*corpio123
writes:Hey everyone, I've been with my boyfriend for almost 10 months now.There have been about 6 incidents where I've been looking at his phone and finding he has been texting a number of girls, sending flirty texts lik "would you be up for fun?" (he means sexual fun bdw) and he called a girl "huni" and asking them do they think he's good looking things like that,And every time hes apologised and I keep saying this is his last chance but it's happened over and over :(I really do love him, but am I being too soft on him?Any answers would be appreciated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2008): He is a total twit, leave him. Girls should not give guys like that a second change, we should boycott them! Ditch him, because he deserves to be alone, forever!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2008): Well my dear, I would tell you to give him an ultimatum and tell him that if he does it once more it's over... AND STICK TO IT. But you've already done that.
I sorry to say this, but I think you're either going to have to put up with it and accept it as just mild flirting (consider if what he says to these girls is really all that bad and if he definatly means it in a sexual way), OR put an end to it... And the only way to do this is to put an end to your relationship.
Hope this helped.
Keep me updated.... As long as you write to me I will write back.
Emivia. x
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reader, scorpio123 +, writes (16 August 2008):
scorpio123 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks for your reply Emivia.I doubt he would follow up on the texts...But sure you can't know can you?Exactly, I know I'm young and there are so many other boys..But apart from this one tiny thing he really is such a great boyfriend.And I love him so much, those two points together is what would make it so hard to end it... Oh I don't know :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2008): Do you think that he would follow up on these texts?
I don't think him calling another girl "Huni" is that bad, they could just be close.. Which is fine.
But saying "Are you up for some fun?" If it really was meant in a sexual way wouldn't be acceptable to me.
This must be making you feel pretty insecure?
You're obviously not comfortable with it and although he has promised not to do it again he is. He is breaking your trust and it knowingly doing something he knows upsets you.
You are young and there are plenty more fish in the sea. If you are not happy with a boyfriend who does this, then I suggest you move on because I seriously doubt he is going to stop for you. If he was, he would have done it already.
Sorry sweety, those are just my observations.
Hope you're ok.
Emivia.
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