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writes:i want to be in a relationship very badly but im afraid.i always think about being rejected and what my friends will think. i know that feeling like that is wrong because i shouldnt care what other people think of me but i cant. i would also like to know aside from how to deal with the feeling of being rejected how to stop worrying about what others think of me.thaanks a bunch Reply to this Question
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reader, rcn +, writes (7 April 2010):
 Start living for you, and not in the reflection of others. Rejection is not personal, it's not rejecting you as an individual, but is turning down an idea or an offer presented. This happens to all of us, in different areas of life. It's a learning, but is also required if you wish to overcome your fear, and live. People who seem to love life, and have great families, get there by learning from rejection. It's better to know if someone will give you a chance in a relationship, than it is to stand off in a corner wondering and not taking action. Ask yourself, what hurts more? Knowing, and moving on to the next opportunity, or not knowing, and not having the opportunity?
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reader, Mercutio6 +, writes (7 April 2010):
Nearly everyone cares about what other people think of them. Don't let anyone tell you anything different.
That being said, you have to realize that you must live your life to please yourself. It is impossible to give everyone a good impression of you nor should you want to. It sounds like you may have some problems with your self-esteem. Find someone who makes you feel good and put yourself out there. Nothing is gained without risk.
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