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writes:I have been seeing this amazing man. He is one of the best men I've ever dated. For the two months we have been seeing each other, his intentions always seemed clear to me and I never pressured him or forced anything out of him. We've met each other's families and he invites me out with his friends constantly. Honestly everything seems to be going very well. My only problem is that he hasn't officially asked me to be his girlfriend, so I don't know what to say to people when I introduce him. I'm scared to ask him why because like I said, I don't want to pressure him or risk scaring him off. At the same time, I'm feeling insecure. I've had trust issues in the past and while I don't think he is anything like my previous boyfriends, I have a difficult time seeing past my dwelling because I keep getting let down. So do you think things are on the right track? That maybe this is just all in my head? If so, how have you gotten over you relationship insecurities? I need a little perspective I think. I don't want to be freaked out for no reason, but I really like this guy and I want things to work out. Thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2015): Ask him if he's over his last girlfriend yet? His reaction will tell you everything.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (21 July 2015):
 You sit him down - informally - sometime... and say to him:
"So.... Hunchy Bunchy.... you like me... and I like you... do you think we are "an item?"
His answer will tell you all you need to know....
Good luck...
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reader, MSA +, writes (21 July 2015):
 Simple solution - just hint it. Or tell him that he needs to ask you.
My boyfriend and I are in a LDR... last year we talked about eventually moving in together. I told him right out, I want a good speech, kinda like a proposal of marriage but him asking me to move in with him. I told him it better be good or I won't. We laugh about it and we joke about it often.. but he knows now what he needs to do.
You should just tell him if he wants you as his girlfriend exclusively, he should 'propose' it. ;) Doesn't have to be serious.. can be light and as a joke.. but he will get the jest.
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reader, Marebear +, writes (21 July 2015):
I have been in your exact position before and the guy I with involved with never asked me to be his girlfriend... I just assumed we were dating when he took me to meet his family... but I did question it so don't start seeing other guys or even talking to other guys because in his mind it might be you are already his girlfriend but if you are really questioning it just casually bring it up in a conversation. But don't push the issue
Good luck!!!
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reader, chipmunk37  +, writes (21 July 2015):
 You say you have been going out for two months, met his family and friends and you have introduced him to the important people in your life as well. In his mind you are dating he just doesn't realise that he has to make it " official" because he is a man, he doesn't realise that you want to hear the actual words. When it comes to relationships and matters of the heart men perfer to communicate through actions rather than words and don't hold the same importance to labels that we women do so they don't realize we like to hear them. A couple of well placed hints should do the trick.
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