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writes:Greetings everyone,I have a big favour to ask... I am going on a date next week with a women that I think is perfect in every way, but I’m concerned that I will be to nervous; are there any techniques anyone can give me to make sure I am calm and not a nervous wreck when I see this women? Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (13 September 2013):
 WiseOwlE put it nicely.
It's OK to be nervous, but relax and know that SHE is most likely nervous too!
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (13 September 2013):
I'm gonna have to go with alcohol. Unless you decide to get drunk before your date, then yeah, your judgment will suck and you might say things you didn't want to. Throw back ONE shot and chill out, it's worked for me plenty of times to get over the nervousness of a first date.
If you don't want to go that route, then try to relax. Honestly, I've gone on dates with guys that were clearly nervous and I thought it was kind of cute. So don't worry about it THAT much.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2013): First of all, don't idolize a person. Placing people too high up on a pedestal makes them more than human. You will also develop unrealistic expectations. She is human, and probably just as nervous about impressing you. She is no where near perfect. No one is.
You are worthy of a nice attractive woman. She wouldn't have agreed to go out with you, if she thought otherwise.
Have a little faith in yourself, she obviously does.
Take several deep breaths periodically, and relax. Nervousness is scary to women, and you really don't have anything to worry about. Please have confidence. It is more attractive than a trembling awkward creepy guy. If you bring her back down to human status, you'll be more at-ease.
Stretch your arms and legs to promote circulation in your extremities, like before and after a workout or run. This will also relieve the tension in your muscles that will make you tense and stiff. Don't dress too heavily for the weather, to minimize perspiration; and clammy hands and skin. Make sure you have breath-mints handy, it will give you added confidence. Don't stretch in-front of her, of course.
ABSOLUTELY NO DRUGS OR ALCOHOL!!! Do not look to alcohol for confidence or to calm you. It will lower your inhibitions, and you may regret what you say and do. Don't drink too much on the date. It leaves a lasting impression, if you screw up. It's okay while you're out, not before the date.
Smile when you see her, and when she smiles back, that will put you at ease. Nature has given females certain features that calm men down. Those same special attributes can also turn you on. They know when to use them.
Right now, you've got the normal jitters in anticipation of a first date.
Most of it will be worn off by your date. I sometimes get butterflies and shaky knees. I can feel my heart beat. I do all that I mentioned above. It works for me.
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