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writes:hi. I need some help. I'm an 18 year old girl who stopped playing with barbie toys two days ago. I know it sounds a bit crazy. Anyways, sometimes I feel like I want to play with them again. I really miss playing with them but I know I have to grow up. Any suggestions on how I can stop myself wanting to play them again? thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, GENE123456  +, writes (24 February 2010):
Maturity is being able to handle more responsibility with age. It is not giving up things that prove maturity. Look at the adult toy collectors that have invested their time in money in their hobbies. I know this as hawing been one myself since age 12. If you can handle more of those demands, there is no doubt of your maturity. Let me clarify that we will never meet. My response is based upon truth. If you are able to distinguish between fantasy and reality, you gave sanity. My parents had felt the same way about me. My hobby never prevented me from being a success in society. If they were not fun, we would not like them.
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reader, _Katy_Did_ +, writes (12 February 2010):
 Have you thought about WHY you like playing with barbies so much? Were they special to you when you were little? Are they comforting? Also, think about the things that make you want to play with barbies. Is it triggered by anything? This sounds like an addiction or a habit to me. Find out what "triggers" you and try to find a solution to that. Replace the dolls with something else. Otherwise, don't stress about it so much. If it's not messing up your life, what's the big deal? Everyone has their "thing". Call it a hobby.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2010): although women usually stop playing with dolls much earlier than, say, 18, you should not get depressed. there is no reason to get depressed. think it this way: some women at 18 have already a 1-year-old kid to worry about. how hard is that compared to your problem? keep in mind that many 18-year-old girls who have a 1-year-old son never really planned things straight. on the other hand, all you could do is, say, buy a playstation, go out more, burn your dolls with alcohol, sell them, find a boyfriend.......
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reader, Faraday +, writes (16 January 2010):
 Don't even bother to cut down, there's really no need.
Look at how many men still play with toys! Mind you, some tend to be a lot more expensive.....
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reader, loveflower +, writes (16 January 2010):
loveflower is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks for the new advise. I appreciate what you're saying about letting it take over my life. Me and my friend play them but only for about half an hour a night.
I do like fashion, and I think you guys are right about the love of being another person.
Me and my friend tried the cold turkey method but it didn't work. We're going to cut down how much we play them and see what happens.
Thanks everyone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2010): You need to try and find a replacement focus. I went 'cold turkey' from playing with my sister's Barbie dolls when I was about 10 or 11, my parents strongly discouraged it for some reason and I got the strong impression the greater good demanded I give them up.
18 does sound a bit old for playing with them, but I don't mean to ridicule you in any way, as Oldersister says there are plenty of grown-ups who devote lots of time to dolls. I'm suspecting you have a strong interest in fashion, why not take a course in make-up or something like that?
Best of luck
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reader, Brooklyngirl +, writes (15 January 2010):
 Don't Worry about it so much...let your inner child have fun! You have plenty of time for the hassles and stress of the adult world soon enough!
Eventually, something (or someone) will come along and distract you from you "toys!" In the meantime, do what makes you happy!
~BG~
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reader, babe'z +, writes (15 January 2010):
Perhaps try & get a new hobbie x
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reader, loveflower +, writes (15 January 2010):
loveflower is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi guys. Thanks so much. I feel a lot better about it.
bethaney
You totally understood what I was asking. Thanks for relating it to your own experiances. And thanks for telling me I should do what makes me happy xx
applebite8821
I loved your answer, and like bethaney, it made me feel a whole lot better about the situation xx
CaringGuy
Good advice, as usual :) I think I will see about joining a club. Even if I carry on playing dolls I still want to do something outside the house. So thanks for that xx
Faraday
You got me thinkin. I guess I do want a baby. I've always been maternal and I suppose that's why I like acting out families and situations like that. Thanks for bringing that up xx
pinkgoblin15
I'm already completely obsessed with the Sims! haha xx
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reader, pinkgoblin15 +, writes (15 January 2010):
 If I was you I would start playing the sims it's like playing with barbie dolls except for older teens
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reader, Faraday +, writes (15 January 2010):
I'll go with "bethaney", sorry "CG".You are not harming anyone, but keep it private. Perhaps you are broody and want a baby?Doesn't matter either way, it's up to you what you do if you aren't hurting anyone.Maybe a kitten would be better, but at least Barbies don't eat anything or mess everywhere!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (15 January 2010):
I think I remember your post from the other day. Best thing to do is take up a new hobby, something that's challenging and fun. Maybe dancing or something like that. I think if you find a new hobby to fill the void, you'll soon find yourself having plenty of fun. Good luck.
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reader, applebite8821 +, writes (15 January 2010):
 You know, I suggest just play with them when you want to. It will fade in time as you get new experience in life like falling in love or having a new job where you will earn like an adult. I think there's nothing wrong with it.To tell you, I went through this also during my teens. I mean, i don't think like most of the typical teenagers do. My mind is still on toys and childhood friends and hanging out. I can say I was a late bloomer but it is fine because I enjoyed it so much anyway. So as you are like I was before, just enjoy what you feel like doing. There's nothing wrong with you. Besides, there's many people out there who are going through the same thing. Relax. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2010): Hi there, I dont think you need to worry at all about wanting to still play with your dolls, i mean who are you hurting anyhow. I was told by my uncles new wife when i was thirteen that i was a baby for playing with my cuddly toys and it hurt me a lot. But when i look back i think that it was something i enjoyed doing and i wish that i had carried on.
If you get some comfort out of playing with them then carry on, what you do in private is your business. I would maybe suggest keeping it to yourself or at least only tell people who you trust wil not judge you, but you dont owe anyone an explanation. I would be more likely to not broadcast that you do to other people though as there are some who would maybe be unkind to you, from lack of understanding and their own judgements!! Take care :D
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