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writes:My girlfriend took off her top at a strip bar on a dare. The manager there asked her if she’d like to work there. She said she’s thinking about it!! He told her she could make five hundred a night. She works as a waitress now, but thinks she can handle this saying its kind of like waiting on tables only with your clothes off! I think she is nuts and I might break up with her if she goes through with this…..How can I stop her? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2009): my girlfriend works at the strip bar too she takes all her clothes off but she treats me with a sex for as long as i want french kissing and anything i want her to do so try dealing like that. also i kiss her boobs so try that also try treating her to some sex and impress her in someway at that strip bar i get to lick my girlfriend on the boobs beacuse shes my girlfriend and she works there so i have the most damn sexiest girl she lets kiss and lick her boobs or anything i want she also lets me strip her and next thing you know we`re in bed wild and naked. have sex with her
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2008): i just wanted to say that i've met this same dilema. My girlfriend is now a stripper and the only reason im at all okay with it is that its a club that doesn't allow lapdances or the customers to touch the dancers at all. I really suggest that you talk to her about it and come to an agreement, weather its her taking the job or not in the end. DO NOT order her not to do it, you cannot control a woman, and shouldn't want to. You have to let her know that it bothers you and for me, the fact that she comes home to me every night and i know she's safe and isn't interested in anyone but me I can be secure about it. If you trust your girlfriend enough and know everything that she'd be doing then you should really see things from her perspective, as should she see things from your side. By all means DO NOT turn it into a fight, make sure its a heartfelt descussion but do not order her around. I don't care who it is, a man should not be controlling of any woman. Its cliche' but you have to COMMUNICATE...plain and simple.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2007): IDK..but i would hat it if that happen to my girlfriend.i don't have one but i might get one.i'm bi
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reader, fishdish +, writes (4 December 2007):
 i would be livid if my boyfriend tried to control my sexuality, it would show a profound lack of trust in my ability to separate taking clothes off from the deep relationship we have. why are you threatened by the consumers of the nudity? If i were you, I would let her know it's something you're not comfortable with, but i really wouldn't go beyond that because it's not your place.
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reader, KittenMagic  +, writes (4 December 2007):
 I know this must be hard for you. I personally have seriously considered this kind of work. I currently have two jobs which keep me going and they pay ok, but i know that if i had to, i wouldn't be too upset about this kind of work, it would be - like you - my boyfriend who wouldn't want me to.
I totally understand your concerns, and she must look at it from your point of view. Ask her if she wouldn't mind you taking your clothes off in front of a load of women, and wouldn't mind them looking at you.
But then look at it from her point of view - it's a lot of money and as long as its a safe registered strip bar, then she won't be in any danger, and it's good for someone to feel so secure about their money. As long as you both understand that it IS just a job, and thats shes getting no kick out of stipping in front of other men, then i think it could work.
It's a decision that only you two can answer.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2007): How old is she? How long have you two been together? You cannot really tell her what to do, just advise her. It may be something that she has always wanted to do and this is the opportunity. Personally i wouldnt be too pleased if i was you. Have a good long talk with her and let her know just how you feel, but if she makes up her mind then you will have to go along with it or finish with her.]
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (4 December 2007):
 Hi,
You cant! if she is that determind. But if she loves you, and knows this is going to upset you, and she still goes ahead. Well, she couldnt have thought that much of your relationship.
It would be different if you didnt mind, but you obviously do. You should point it out to her, that you dont want her to do this, and it will probably break you both up if she goes ahead. See what she decides to do.
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