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How can I stop liking this married guy?

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Question - (17 March 2007) 2 Answers - (Newest, 18 March 2007)
A female United Kingdom age 36-40, anonymous writes:

Hi guys! I'm hoping for some advice on the following problem. Basically I'm 22 and work as a receptionist at the front of house of a big office block. There is a guy who is the boss of one of the companies which works in our offices who is in his 40's called Steve. Since the first day I started working there we caught each others eye and there was an instant attraction. Ever since then we are always flirting with each other. I know that it's wrong because I have a boyfriend and he is married but I just can't stop thinking about him and I love it when he comes down to talk to me and I'm always disappointed if he doesn't come in.

What can I do to stop all this nonsense as I know that I shouldn't be acting like this but I just get so excited about seeing him and he's always going out of his way to talk to me and pay me complements and flirt. Does it look like I'm going to have to look for another job? Linda x

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A male reader, eddie Canada +, writes (18 March 2007):

eddie agony auntEve is right. Your feelings are just that feelings. You can crreate an inappropriate mood though by letting too much of your feelings show. He brightens up your day, enjoy it. So what. Don't make your boyfriend a chump though by letting the rest of the world see what's going on. These situations will come and go throughout your life. Are you going to chase a new love everytime you click with someone or are you going to smile and remember your true love you've built your life with. The choice is easy for me.

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A female reader, AskEve United Kingdom +, writes (18 March 2007):

AskEve agony auntIf I were you I'd enjoy the attention but don't let the flirting get out of hand. Remember, he's married and rule number one is "Don't get involved with a married man." You also need to remember that you're in a relationship too. Think to yourself... how would YOU feel if your boyfriend was doing this and flirting away with a woman from his work? So he brightens up your day, great! No problem there, as long as he knows there's nothing going to come of it.

As for your question "what can I do to stop all this nonesense" - Always remember: YOU have a mind, your feelings come from your mind therefore you can control your feelings. In other words, YOU are in charge and nobody else. YOU determine the future."

Eve

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