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writes:me and my bf have been together for 9 months and we have had our ups and downs but now it just seems like we are always fighting and I dont know what to do cause i do not want to lose him but I feel it coming please someone help me with some advice!! I dont kow what 2 do anymore! Reply to this Question
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reader, Devilish Angel +, writes (21 January 2008):
 First of all, it sounds like you are taking the blame for what's happening. Unless it is always your fault that the fight happens, then its not all your fault. You really want to make this relationship work out but does he? It takes effort on both parts to make a relationship work and you can't give everything and he gives nothing. It only hurts you when you could be loving someone who loves you back. If he really loves you, then he would want to stop fighting and get to the bottom of the problem(s). If he really loves you, then he wouldn't be fighting with you and hurting you emotionally, if not physically.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (21 January 2008):
 If you want a healthy relationship, you should avoid contentious issues. Fighting is not good for a healthy relationship. Everyone is entitled to their opinions whether right or wrong. You need to see from the other's perspective and if you do not agree, agree to disagree and move on.
Just calm down and be cool. Whatever happens , there are ways to make them good again. Don't worry!.You will be able to handle him .
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reader, tj1091  +, writes (21 January 2008):
You need to stop the arguing first, as this WILL result in the relationship ending or you hating each other. If you feel your discussion turning into an argument, breathe deeply, think before you speak, and if it gets heated, one of you should tell the other you need ten minutes apart to calm down then you can talk again. It is hard not to lose your temper, but it won't help, and youll say things you regret. Please make the effort, I have lost someone i love dearly because we couldnt stop arguing and talk. Remember that you don't want to shout at each other because you love him and want to solve problems together.
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