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anonymous
writes:my boyfriend of 2 1/2 years keeps texting other girls. He has pictures of them and dirty messages which he sends and they send. He does not know I have seen them.....this time. I confronted him few months ago about them and he promised he would stop and said he did not know why he did it??? it happened again and now I have found more. I don't know what to do I am expecting our baby very soon. I feel weak, stupid,used and so scared. My whole pregancy he has been doing this. He wanted the baby he suggested it and we tried for one. He is always rubbing my tummy and talking to my tummy but I feel like I am just carrying his baby for him while he has phone sex with other girls. It is breaking my heart and I am so confused. I hate to be near him knowing he is sending pictures to other girls and looking at other girls. Has any one else had this happen, how can I stop him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2008): Oh men and their tricks, how can a mature man like that do such a thing to his pregnant woman, knowing fully well that she must know it one day. I feel he did it intentionally. My dear just take heart, let him know you've understoon his tricks. Just hold yourself ok. Be happy.
Nancy Ibe.
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reader, jkobeska  +, writes (11 January 2008):
Tell him you know he is still doing it and if you catch him again he will never see you or your baby again. That should knock him back into the real world.
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reader, Dawnie +, writes (10 January 2008):
 Well you need to speak to him and make it clear he stops this or he leaves. I can imagine this is very tough on you, but what he is doing is disrespectful to you. Let him know what he stands to lose regarding you and the baby, hopefully he will come to his senses. He sounds immature and he needs to grow up. He is in a committed relationship
with a child on the way and needs to act like an adult.
Good luck. xx
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reader, Andy00 +, writes (10 January 2008):
 Gosh this must be difficult on you, especially with the pregnancy. I understand you will take a lot of strength for you to do what I'm about to suggest, but; I think you need to tell him that if he doesn't stop, he'll be out the door. What he is doing is so disrespectful to you, (again) especially since you are pregnant with HIS child. You need to make it clear that you aren't going to tolerate his actions anymore.
I hope this was of some help to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2008): I think you need some time apart - let him know why you are doing it and that he needs to have a think about his 'immature habit'. Hopefully he will come to his senses and sort his sad little life out - but I don't think you should count on it and think maybe you need to make plans of your own too (just in case) as you need to concentrate on yourself and the little one.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (10 January 2008):
 You are pregnant and he has no sexual outlet for so many months . It is a man thing. They like to look at all those gorgeous or naked women pictures. Don't feel threatened by their actions.Men and women are different. He is just a normal hot blooded male. You have peaked into a man's world. There are things woman cannot accept but that is the way the man's world is..
If he loves you and treats you well, just tolerate his vices.
Just leave him alone. It is just a short fad and he will get tired of sending those pictures.
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (10 January 2008):
 Hi,
I felt so sorry for you when I read through your letter. What a Bars***, to do this while you are expecting.
It would be bad enough at anytime, but this is awfull.
If you have asked him to stop and he wont there's not a lot you can do. You cant force him to give it up.
But I would tell him, that if he wants a future with you and the baby, he is risking loosing it by acting like this. He needs a kick up the backside, and I suggest that if he wont stop, then leave him for a while. Go and stay with your family or a mate. Let him see you mean it.
God I wish I knew this man, I would be tempted to kick him into touch.
Be strong and take care XX
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reader, Reebe +, writes (10 January 2008):
 I feel for you, your mixed up enough with the pregnancy with out this. Tell him you know he's doing it again and tell him he should have mre respect for you, ask him how you would feel if you did the same thing with other men.
Unfortunatly you can't MAKE him stop he has to want to.
Don't go nuts at him or it will end in an arguement, just tell him how it's making you feel or show him what you have written on here.
Tell him he has a choice.
Unless he's really stupid he'll realise how insenstive and hurful he's been.
It is kind of cheating on you and make sure he knows that you think that, if he think he can get away with it, he'll continue to do it.
If he carries on doing this then even though the timing is awful you will have to decide if he's worth being with.
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