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writes:How can i stop getting jealous so easily? i've only been seeing this guy for a month but i get jealous so easily (although i make sure i dont show it in front of him). im really insecure so simple things make me jealous. like yesterday i went to a friends house after work and they had all been drinking and he was sat on the sofa next to a stunning girl and i got jealous and was wondering whether they had been flirting or anything. and the other day i couldnt go to the pub as i had to work but i heard they were inviting some other people and one of our friends said they were "really hot" girls and i was worrying all night what he was doing as he is a flirt when hes been drinking. how can i control my jealousy?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2007): If you have a naturally jealous streak, it is hard to control and this comes with time and age. However, your being jealous is completely natural. What girl wouldn't be if their boyfriend of just a month was sitting next to a stunning girl - don't give yourself a hard time over it. You are just feeling what millions of other women feel. When we are in the early stages of a relationship, we don't know where we stand or how the other person feels about us, and it's only once we are secure and settled in a longer relationship that we feel less intimidated by other women. As long as he did eventually get off the sofa to be with you and didn't sit next to her all night, then you're fine, but if he is flirtatious in front of you when he has had a drink, this will only make you more jealous and he might not be the man for you. As a woman with a jealous streak myself, I know that the man who is best suited to me should not be a flirt and someone I can trust. This is something you will find out in time. However, you are doing really well by hiding your jealousy at the moment - keep it in check and if you feel the green eyed monster rising within you, then don't show it in the early stages. That way you can judge whether you are jealous for no reason or whether he is making you feel this way because of his actions towards other women. Best of luck XX
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2007): Its just not that easy. It takes time and confidence, so don't despair and give up straight away. Try and trust him and don't jump to conclusions, not that easy i know, but you will gain it in time. We all go through these things in our lives and have to make allowance for others.Take carexx
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reader, girlwhoneedshelp +, writes (3 September 2007):
 It's not something you can control. It's to do with your self worth and ego. I have a very low self esteem also and get very jealous as well. As long as you trust your partner theres nothing to worry about.
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