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writes: Hello,Simply, how can I get a more happy persona and stop being miserable?My childhood wasn't always the happiest (parents divorcing, arguing etc), and I just want to learn how to be happier.People always tell me to stop frowning and stop being miserable.What can I do to SMILE and be HAPPY?Cheers Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2008): Sorry babes, nearly missed your response. Thanks for the update, that was very kind of you. If we've helped in any small way, then we are glad... Take care of you, and remember the world is your oyster, happiness and good luck is just a heartbeat away... Good luck, take good care of you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2008): hello thanks for all your replies....all of them have been very helpful.
thanks for the compliment (IMO) baby duck, there were times when I used to feel sorry for myself, but now I'm not a kid anymore (and well, am technically an adult) I just realised that I need to do something about it....and all your replies will help me.
thank you everyone.
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reader, zizetta  +, writes (1 August 2008):
u should make what u like and love,dont care abou people,cuz people say alot,dont care about who doesnt deserve,share up with friends,go out,listen happy song that makes u remmber old things u like,go for a walk,walking is very useful...listen to my words.try to make wat i told u.....i hope you feel happy..
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2008): Sorry babes, life sucks sometimes... we all got problems and stories, that's what makes us interesting and unique...
You got to think positive, it's hard, but the more you do it the easier it'll get. Smile as often as you can. Smile for no reason, smile at everyone you meet. Smile untill your face hurts and you look like a raving lunatic. Just smile untill it becomes habit rather than something thats forced.
What do you want out of life, what things make you happy. What are your goals. Where do you want to be in 10years, 15years, 20years. What can you do to get there.
Anthony Robbins is a life coach from the USA. His words are inspirational and can give you motivation in life to help you get ahead. Look for him on the internet, check his stuff at you tube... Here's a link, where I provided some information about how to change your life and get the one that suits you and makes you happier in the long term.
The past is gone, is done and over, your future is not here, it may never come.. But every moment of now is the present, and in my book, that's an important gift.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/is-there-someone-out-there-for-everyone-.html
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2008): The first thing you should try to do is accept that you can't change what happened between your parents. Although it was a difficult situation for you, you can't allow their unhappiness to be your burden. They did what they thought was best for them at the time. This doesn't mean that you won't find happiness. You can. I would try to do something that involved getting out of the house. Either by taking classes, working, or just taking up a hobby that you always wanted to do. Stay focused on good things.Second, surround yourself with positive people. If you have people or things that are bringing you down, stay away from them. This is the last thing you need right now.And finally, be proud of the person you are. Think of all the good things that you have in your life. I'm sure there is more than what you think.
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reader, Oceania  +, writes (1 August 2008):
 try to get all your frustrations and everything that makes you miserable out.
go and take a therapy or look for professional help. I mean you are young you shouldnt be feeling this way. You should be enjoying your age and going out with your friends to partys or clubs.
Maybe you can get closer to god or whatever you believe. It may make you feel a lot better.
Try to focus on things you enjoy, your hobbies or something, try to be more positive and think that everything happens for a reason, life may be unfair but you have to learned from your experiences and move on, getting you stronger and wiser.
Love and let you be loved.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2008): Well all i can advise is to focus on the good things in your life.
I used to be the same always down & putting myself down.
But my friends helped me to be happier.
Just think about the good things & spend time doing things that you enjoy & love.
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reader, Angel (:  +, writes (1 August 2008):
Just surround yourself with happy and positive people and things , things you like .
don't give yourself time when your doing nothing so theres time to reflect on whats happened in your life
keep your self busy doing things , get enough sleep and eat healthily too , i know it may seem irrelavent but those two things help a lot they cause the right chemicals to flow in your body
If you listen to slow / depressing music stop .
Listen to happy jumpy music that puts you in a good mood.
Also if your home is untidy/dirty clean it to create a clean and relaxing atmosphere
I hope that helped :) xxx
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reader, xxbaybeegal +, writes (1 August 2008):
 Aww :) x
well...even though im a teen...i think to make you're self smile and me happy again you should:
1)treat yourself -if you do you'll feel happy..(clothes,shoes ect)
2)go out with friends/family -going out for a drink or shopping trips or the cinema...can make you feel happier person
3)networking/socialising - if you have myspace/bebo/facebook and all sorts of blogging..sites can make you feel happier to socialising is a good way to make friends.
4)cooking -ok this might sound weird but if you have like a recipe book for desserts and meals and you like cooking, making food and spending time learning to make the food can be quite fun.
5) inviting friends &+ family over -inviting them means time for the "chit chat" it can make you in the mood and make you smile
6) going clubs- well if youre ready to boogy with some mates going to the club might be fun. you can also meet new friends/ even a boyfriend(if you havent got 1 :) )
7) night in -well a bucket of popcorn, chocolate, drinks, and you know all the junk food (lol) and a dvd(comedy) might make you happy...if you dont feel like going out then this might be a good thing
well good luck and tell us if you feel happy again :)
xxbaybeegal
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