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writes:I was diagnosed with PCOS about a year ago after years of weird symptoms. I gain weight very easily, I have skin issues such as acne on certain areas of my body, hyper pigmentation and discoloration in certain areas... I get skin tags on my breasts, and I often get random dark patches and spots on my body. I've also been on several different medications which has given me even more crazy symptoms. I recently went through a huge weight gain in about a 3 month period from being sick and being on a certain medication, and on top of that I wasn't exercising like I normally would. So in a way it's my own fault. A big problem here is this....I got huge deep stretch marks ALL OVER my back. Like a tiger clawed me. I ended up gaining a crap ton of weight in my back! What the heck? I didn't know one could gain fat in their back like I did. I had some marks there before from when I was a young teen, but now I feel like my back is ruined... I feel crappy. My skin will not give me a break. Unfortunately I'm more prone to stretch marks based of my condition and other things. I already have them on my stomach and boobs, but now my entire back is all scarred up for life. Actually, about 70% of my body is. Stupid bad skin. As you can probably understand, this affects my relationship with my boyfriend greatly. He's the first person I've ever been *somewhat* intimate with. Always having problems with my skin and usual weight gains makes it embarrassing for me to be intimate with him. I haven't let him see my backside since this has happened. Most of the time I insist on keeping my clothes on or having the covers over my body. I don't feel comfortable letting him see my full, naked, chubby, stretch mark scarred, skin crazed body. And yes that's how I refer my body as :P My boyfriend has been very nice through this all, but he gets frustrated with our somewhat sex life. He gets upset about me being so insecure in the bedroom, but he just doesn't understand it all. He deserves a woman without this disorder and all of these problems. So I have two questions, 1. How do you men feel about stretch marks, discolored skin issues, bad skin in general? Do you guys think it's disgusting or is it something easy to accept? 2. How can I help make things better with my boyfriend and not be so self conscious in the bedroom? It's so hard not to be embarrassed. I don't consider myself to look normal.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2015): hey i have pcos too, I was diagnosed when i was 21 , now I'm 30, my period is regular but i suffer from acne, mood swings, depression,hair thinning /loss and I gain weight easily. I have had strech marks since I was 13 on my thigh and stomach, they're pretty bad. I get suntanned during summer and that hides the stretch marks, they look better. I eat healthy and i go to the gym everyday, I'm still overweight because i like chocolate
However, I don't think skin discoloration or spotting and symptoms of PCOS. unless you mean you underarm are brown colored that could mean you're starting to have diabetes which we could have at some point. please make sure a doctor check your skin discoloration as it could be something else that has nothing to with your PCOS or it could be a symptoms of one of the drugs you're taking. btw I was on metformin(metformin is GOOD) for few years then i stopped when i lost weight. I've been on birth control 2 times for 6 months each. my doctor gave me phentermine for few months , but that gave me side effects. DONOT TAKE phentermine because it has side effects, people are suing the company for the side effects. research the medications your doctors give you, because doctors give so much meds that you might not need.
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reader, Midnight Shadow  +, writes (12 February 2015):
 Normal nude female bodies looking natural, not airbrushed, is a lifesaver online.
Also, semi-transparent (short) robes and/or corsets (not necessarily tight ones) that cover your stomach and back, but not .... well, the rest of you, may help :P
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (11 February 2015):
 " Stupid bad skin."...Never call your body stupid or bad. You do not have another good body with good skin in your closet, and choose to wear the stupid ugly one. Good or bad, it's your body...love it...it's all you have."He deserves a woman without this disorder and all of these problems."...You honestly believe if your guy was with a so call normal woman he wouldn't have problem??? Not a single person on this planet has a life without problems. Millions have even greater problems than yours. I would say you were blessed by what you have...why? You have a boyfriend. Many will never know what it's like to be loved because of their problems.Your guy wants you and love the woman you are on the inside, no the outside. You spend too much time on your outside and not your inside."How can I help make things better with my boyfriend"... Love him, feed, sex him...we are simple like that. :) Just enjoy what you have, not what you want to have.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2015): Although I'm not a man so I can't fully answer your question, I am a woman with heaps of stretch marks that are very deep and red across my stomach. I've had two children and I ended up looking like a map of the world. They used to really upset me but after a while they fade and I barely think about them anymore.I split up with the father of my children nearly five years ago and have been intimate with two men since then. Now one used to be a marine and then went on to be a p.t teacher, he looked after himself and was very handsome and the other was also in great shape and looked after himself....they both loved my body and told me how sexy I was all the time. When I didn't feel comfortable in the light I put lamps on instead so it was dim but could still see things. I love wearing lingerie, you can get lovely things that cover you're stomach or back.Half the time men prefer it when you keep some underwear on, it looks nice. Other than that you could use a spray tan to hide the marks a bit. Not like mahogany colour lol just a light colour.Men, in my experience, love confidence. Even when you don't feel it just try and persuade yourself that you're beautiful. I looked up a site that had a gallery of 'normal' female bodies and breasts and honestly we all have things that we fret about, thinking men would find ugly, but half the time they don't even notice.Try not to get stressed out by it, sex is meant to be fun and enjoyable and I'm sure your partner finds you very attractive :)
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