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writes:Hey everyoneMy problem is that im being majorly over paranoid and im not sure what to doMy bf is away at the moment and will be for roughly another 3 weeks He is great and sometimes sends me really sweet texts but if i dont here from hm i begin to worryNot sure what im worried about, maybe he has gone off me, maybe im boring him as he is away, maybe something terrible has happened. I know im not worried about him cheating as i trust himIm missin him so bad Have taken up clubs and am going out with mates but it still doesnt helpMy main prob is staying rational when he doesnt text back Any advice wold be greatThank you x x x
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reader, Blooregard +, writes (3 October 2006):
I think if he is normally sweet, then you have nothing to worry about, but if he is sending these "sweet texts" completely out of character then he could be hiding something.
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reader, Nish +, writes (3 October 2006):
Well, I think your problem is yourself. Mainly, those who worry about the other doing something is really worried about themselves falling off track. I used to be worried about my bf wondering off with some other girl and then one day he left the state for a couple weeks and I found myself doing the same thing I thought he was going to do. But then again, he kept thinking that I was going to cheat and at first I didn't but after he left, I went crazy and decided to do me. So basically what I'm trying to say is, it's not wrong to worry, but just don't stress yourself over. You'll lose alot time that you should be spending on yourself trying to get yourself together worrying about him 24/7. Don't stop thinking about him but stress over him. That's my advice and I hope you take it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2006): dont overreact. guys are so diffdrent with emotions that we are. dont bug him and call all the time if he dosent call you. if you trust him then you will feel much better if not it will only cause problems
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reader, JackBauer +, writes (3 October 2006):
 I am in a similar situation, my girlfriend is away at school, and we hardly get to see each other. She would always say she would call back and never would, and has seemed distant with me since she's been away. I figured something was up, cheating, didn't like me anymore, etc.
The mistake I made was not trusting her, when I should have. I screwed up our whole relationship and now she won't talk to me. Also, I was too overbearing with her about not returning my calls, IMs, etc. It pushed her away even further.
The most important thing is if the both of you trust each other, then there is nothing you should worry about. And don't be too pushy about the situation, just try to ask him in a calm manner, to see what's up. Also, if you have the ability to give him a surprise visit, that can be fun as well.
Me being overly paranoid cost me a great girl and something special, now I have to win her back. You don't want to push it too much, cause then you will push him away.
See how he is when he finally returns home, if he is like how he was when he was always around, then everything should be good. However, if he is distant, not the same, something might be up.
Best of Luck!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2006): Insecurity is a terrible curse and most women have it in one form or another. Try not to give into the negative thoughts. If you truly trust him and don't believe he's cheating on you, then relax. He's probably just busy doing whatever it is he went away to do. Women really screw up relationships by being paranoid, insecure or jealous for no apparent reason. Take it from someone who knows. Don't make that mistake.
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