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writes: hi im am a 14 year old boy from kent i not sure if iam gay wot should i do because i fancey a boy in my class Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2008): If u have the slightest attraction to women you might be bi, and sometimes you have feelings for the opposite sex when you get older . Most importantly if you are still questioning if you are gay I wouldn't just come out and say it unless u are positive.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2007): Do you look at other males or just the one in your class? you may not be gay maybe just Bi.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2007): hi im the same but strangly in my school its more layed bak so we ppl found owt they didnt care so i must be very lucky because ive got a bf and no body cares!!! and more amazingly im only 13 and 14 in a few months so it even helped me to deside better, so if you want to ask him owt here are a few tips to see if he is gay....... watch to see if he plays boyish games......see if he joins in wit girls more than boys......see if he daydreams while he is in class BUT only staring at a boy......see wat his inrests are......see if he likes drawing girls more than boys....So i hope this helps and GOOD LOOK!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2006): Congrats on finding out you're gay. I can tell you in my own experience that I did not "come out" until I was in college and away from my parents.Your parents may or may not be okay with this, so keep in mind the following:1) Parents are financial supporters, and if they disapprove of you being gay, they may cut you off your cash flow, and kick you out of the house * I know a kid who got the boot2) Coming out is just as political, because people talk. I waited for a long time when nobody could really care if I was gay or wasn't, and my mom outed me at 19.3) Try to fit in as best as you can until you do decide to come out. It's unfair, but gay people suffer discrimination. Don't come out until you're ready to face consequences.4) Remember God loves you. And if this boy might like you, too, maybe there would be something that could come out of this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2006): its illegal but i would say if you can go for it, you dont have to go too far anyway just make sure you are on a two way street. as adolescents we all devop crushes but what makes them different from adult attractions is that in a crush only one party is interested in a possessive sort of way, in love both partners share respect for one another. if you do find love it is very rare. dont worry about the gay thing, it may just be a phase although if not i'm sure youve known deep down for a long time. dont tell people at school. i came out in the sixth form but even that was bad. what i mean is the older your peers the more likely you will get a mature reaction. At your age i reckon they might just bully you to peices. So wait until peers will accept it better (around 17 and 18 is ussually fine). human nature is to do with biology and environment but also developmental stages. These stages affect our attitudes and puberty affects attitudes to sex. it causes anti gay feeling as sexual boudaries are being learnt so need hyper clear definition. deviation is frowned on. this isn't so in a couple of years when people give less of a shit, and have bigger worries.
good luck
(i turned out fine)
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2006): If you suspect that you're gay, there is absolutely nothing wrong with it. Being gay doesn't make you a bad person, it's not gross, and it's not wrong.
However, I would advise you to tread carefully. The world in general can be a bit homophobic, and especially with people your age---if you tell this guy you like him and he's straight, there's a chance that rumors will start to fly and it could be bad.
My suggestion is to relax. You're young and still trying to find yourself. If you really are gay, it's nothing to be upset over. Be happy and secure with yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2006): Its natral to have feelings like this as most people your age do and you may be Gay but keep open minded as you are young yet, its importent for you to have understanding friends you can trust to talk to about this or your mum/grown up you trust if you feel you can I myself have lots of Gay friends who have told me about simmler experiences of fancying boys they had in school maybe you should be his friend first and see how he feels about you in the future before you tell him how you feel about him and just be confidant in the young man you are dont pigen hole yourself you are you and thats fabulous! Take care
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reader, nigel knows!!!! +, writes (3 October 2006):
 well this is the same thing that has happened to me when i was your age and at school i told my "best friend" at the time and within 5 mins the whole school new and they also new the boy how i liked was so unless you have realy good friends that you can trust then talk to them it always feels better to tell someone you know but please be careful otherwise like mine your school days could be a living hell and if you are gay so what your parents proberly already no and they will love you if you had 3 heads you might just be suprised at there recation they proberly will be fine let me know how it goes ok good luck you will be fine!!!!
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reader, tazlilly  +, writes (3 October 2006):
Nearly all teenagers go through an 'am I gay?' phase - I know I did! The best thing to do is wait and see if you continue to feel this way. There's nothing wrong with being gay anyway, but if you aren't and you tell this boy that you like them, then it can be even more awkward. Just wait and see at first, then, once you are sure, try telling your closest friends. Whatever you do, don't tell the guy you fancy on an impulse. Give it time, and you should know what to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2006): considering you are underaged maybe think about it a litle more before things get physical? I thought I was a lesbian for a year and it turns out I just loved someone a sa firend so maybe you should think things over carefully, best of luck.
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