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writes:It's my time of the month at the moment and I am being such a miserable cow.All I want to do it sit on the sofa, watch tv and eat Chinese food and chocolate cake.The worst thing is that I'm being so horrible and mean to my boyfriend. He's so lovely and makes an effort to help me feel better and look on the bright side but I can't help but think negatively and be unresponsive and unhelpful. He works long and hard during the week so I want to be the best girlfriend I can be when he has time to relax at home. I got so irritated and angry this morning because I cant find any shoes that fit my feet (they are incredibly wide eeee). Which feels like it puts a downer on the whole day. Grrr. I don't think I'm usually a horrible person, but I turn into such a miserable monster when I'm pre menstrual, menstrual or post menstrual! That's 2 weeks a month!Anyone have any tips as to how I can ease my irritability around this time? And how I can be less miserable around my boyfriend?Thanks all x Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2010): If you crave chocolate, you might have magnesium deficiency (lots of people do, especially women :))
There may be other vitamins/minerals that you might be deficient in too, yup..
Caffeine, alcohol and sugar all decrease amoung of good vitamins and minerals and can make things worse..
(though dark chocolate has magnesium and some other 'good' nutrients too, in small amounts, it's better to have other sources of magnesium though :)
Also, physical exercise - going out for a walk or jogging etc can help.
There are actually books written about how to relieve PMS/PMDD with nutrition, see if your library has any, some info is online..
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (24 October 2010):
 Ah poster, of course when you post this..My unfriendly reminder of me being a woman comes. I call her Rosy, kinda like an alter ego.
I will say I'm going to check out PMDD, thanks jmc930.
Damn, now I want Chinese.
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reader, pachalie +, writes (24 October 2010):
hi
every month i turned into a bitch, one i didnt relate to all month i was what my x would call normal and then it happend one week of the month i would cry scream argue accuse him of anything the smallest thing it didnt matter infact i looked for things to go off about , things that i knew were not true but just couldnt help it my mouth just went on with out me, get help or end up like me as i say hes now my x and im so shit about myself that i settled for anyone who would put up with me , except hes a controll freak and now has my moods in controll cos he has me treading on egg shells cos he has worse moods swings than me ,,,,,,,,,,
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (23 October 2010):
 I agree with jmc930. Go talk to your doctor, it can be PMDD or it can be your hormones are severely messed up around the time you are due for your period. Either way you can get help for it. Beats being a bitch without wanting to be one.
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reader, marymomnwife +, writes (23 October 2010):
my mom says u can chew on rosemary leaves or make tea with them. she swears by it. i can completely tell when shes on hers and when she hasnt used her remedy:-|
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reader, AuntieSnap +, writes (23 October 2010):
Hi sweetheart,
You have my heartfelt sympathy. It is not pleasant feeling like a ravening beast and snarling at your nearest and dearest. Been there done that and got the tee-shirt. My daughter is going through something similar and we have been to the doctor as she is in agony and raging for at least a week before hand. When she asked for Irn Bru and Galaxy.........you didnt say no. She is currently trying Evening primrose oil and watching her diet because unfortunatley what we crave can be the very things that morphs us into unreasonable monstrous harpies. I have cut and pasted some info that you may find helpful
Caffeine elevates estrogen levels that increases symptoms of premenstrual syndrome (PMS). Cutting back on caffeine, which is found in tea, coffee, colas and chocolate, can relieve breast tenderness during your period.
Alcohol increases premenstrual depression and headaches. Try to avoid it during your period.
Sugar causes rapid swings in blood sugar levels, triggering mood swings. Avoid chocolate and sweets when you can.
Salt increases water retention, which leads to bloating. Foods you should avoid include fast foods or anything else with more than 50 mg of sodium, like most chips.
Avoid fatty and greasy foods such as beef, lamb and pork and eat fish and poultry instead.
What to eat instead
To beat your sweet tooth, eat complex carbohydrates like pasta, rice, beans, cereal and whole grains.
Vitamins A and D help you steer clear of pitfalls like acne and oily skin. Good sources include cantaloupe, raw carrots, cooked sweet potatoes, spinach, enriched milk and cereal.
Vitamin B6 helps relieve premenstrual cravings, fatigue, mood swings, fluid retention and bloating. You can find it in fish, eggs, nuts, bananas, potatoes, and the white meat of turkey and chicken.
Make premenstrual stress a thing of the past by eating broccoli, bell peppers, Brussels sprouts, citrus fruits, cranberry juice and cantaloupe, which are all rich in vitamin C.
OK, so you can make up for it afterwards with a large blast of vino collapso and a ton of chocolate.
I really hope this is of some help. Away now and give your lovely and understanding boyfriend a big cuddle.
Cheers doll,
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2010): Yeah,
First of all, stop eating so much, because you will truly become that big fat cow. Second of all, you might need some medicine from the doctor for you horrid PMS. There is some great stuff out geared to helping your pre-menstrual blues. Also, what a great guy to try and help ease your suffering, sounds like a keeper to me. Seriously, go and see your doctor.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (23 October 2010):
Besides feeding your cravings, taking midol extra strength pamprin doesn't do it for me, having a heating pad by your bed for those cramps that feel like someone is stabbing your abdomen with a sword, not even thinking about fitting in those jeans, buying cute new sweat pants or cotton leggings to lounge around in, drinking a gallon of water, and keeping the candy dish full of your favorite chocolate candy, you're doing what you can.
Whenever it's my time of the month I turn into Mr. Hyde, so in order for me not to kill my husband, I usually separate myself from him. I stay in our room, being online, and he's watching the television. He gives me my space, but he'll win me over by ordering take out Chinese, or asking if I want to go to that yummy Mexican restaurant. Or he'll call me down to tell me my favorite television show is on. That way I avoid snapping at him for no apparent reason.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2010): My partner, increases her Iron intake - usual by eating steak. This seems to help. Although I'm a man so I'm no expert.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2010): You should go to the doctor for this. You might have PMDD, premenstrual dysphoric disorder, a condition linked to severe emotional and physical problems linked to menstruation. Here's a link to an overview of what it is:
https://health.google.com/health/ref/Premenstrual+dysphoric+disorder
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