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writes:There's this girls I like. Or I should say really like. I've asked my friends what I should do, but the advice they give me keeps on contradicting what they're all saying, so instead, I'm asking a bunch of strangers for advice. What I need help with is this. I don't talk to her often, but I know I need to start talking to her if I'm ever going to have a chance. How can I start talking with her, without coming off as desperate or creepy? Thanks. Reply to this Question
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (1 October 2016):
 I think, assuming this girl is a similar age to you, that you need to make things as easy as possible for her. If you just walk up to her and ask her out for a coffee or something, she might be so startled she could decline. Instead why not give her your mobile number and say, "I'd love to take you out for a coffee sometime but I don't want you to feel under pressure, so here's my mobile number so you can let me know your answer." That way she will have time to have a think about the proposition, decide whether she wants to go or not, and let you know her answer. Good luck. I hope she agrees.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (1 October 2016):
 Where do you know her from?
School? Work? Some shop?
Next time you talk to her, ask her out for a lunch or tea/coffee see what she says. If she says yes, then she is interested - no, she is probably not.
There is nothing creepy or desperate about asking someone out for lunch/coffee. UNLESS she is underage. Then you shouldn't ask her out, because that IS creepy.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (1 October 2016):
 It's important you have a reason to talk to her, like sharing a class together or something that isn't just going up to her randomly.
Do you have anything in common? What do you know about her?
As an adult, it's a little easier to just go up to someone and say "fancy meeting me for a coffee?", but it's better to know something about them first, so it's not just their looks you're basing your crush on.
Do you see each other often?
What interactions do you have with her?
What hobbies does she have?
What music does she like?
It may be a case of walking over to her and asking if she'd like to go for lunch sometime next week, but it would be better to know something about her first.
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