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writes:My male friend, who hates change, doesn't like my boyfriend. He has been always like this not liking if someone walks with my friend, him and I. It was always the three of us for about a year and then suddenly my boyfriend came and he hates it.can i talk to him about it and explain people get boy/girlfriend and how can i show him i haven't changed? Reply to this Question
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reader, endlesssong  +, writes (5 March 2007):
 It sounds more like change isn't so much of an issue as he's afraid to loose you as a friend. I've had friends that are somewhat like this and think that just because I have a boyfriend now they are no longer going to be as important to me. Explain to him thats not the case and that while your boyfriend is important, so are friends. There's also no reason it can't still be the three of you because sometimes a person just needs friend time. So make sure you set aside that time for them still too!
It might also help to make sure he knows that it realy bugs you that he dosn't like your boyfriend for these reasons. He'd want you to support him if he found someone, right? Tell him so and that it would mean a lot to you for him to just try and like and get to know your guy.
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reader, cd206 +, writes (4 March 2007):
 The fact is that if you have a boyfriend you have changed, be it willingly or not. You're considering your boyfriend above what your slightly obsessive sounding friend wants and that shows a marked change in how you were before. I
'm slightly worried by your friends attitude though. What's it to him who you hang out with etc? You need to tell him (in a nice way) to grow up and accept that things will change whether he likes it or not. Then get back to enjoying your boyfriend and don't let this guy come betweenyou.
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