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writes: I just recently met this guy that is all I want in a man but when I am alone with him I shut down from being aggressive because he seems out of my league. I want to know how can I show him I like him without seeming standoffish? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2006): Once my boyfriend and I got together, he confessed that he never thought anything would happen between us because he thought I was out of his league. I was stunned by this - I had never thought about him like that or thought that I was better than him etc.I think that he had worked all that in his head and as a result delayed asking me out because he was thinking too much and blowing everything out of proportion. You're situation is probably similar - in your mind you are turning him into something he's not so STOP over thinking it and make a move!Just be yourself and if he's worth it, it will love you for it.
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reader, nogames +, writes (12 January 2006):
My best friend met her current partner before she knew about all his flash achievements and accolades. Had she known she may have felt this guy was out of my league BUT she didn't know and was her usual funny, goofy, easygoing self! So they talked and learnt all about each other and stil got on like a house on fire and before you knew it, she made a few moves and they were a couple. He even said he liked how forward she was.
Underneath it all he's just a man, he has the same funny thoughts, desires, self consciousness, nerves and odd habits as the rest of us. Don't be intimidated. He's just a man. Be yourself and let him know you like him. If he responds, great. If he's not interested then it wasn't meant to be, but at least you'll know you were true to who you are.
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx  +, writes (11 January 2006):
 I think you're thinking too much!! I know it sounds silly but sometimes, we're trying so hard to impress someone, we do the total opposite and make a complete fool of ourselves!! Just be yourself, be cool and make conversation. Some cheeky smiles, light touching and a bit of flirting will show him that you like him as more than a friend too!!!
Good luck and keep cool, your personality is what you want him to see so don't hide behind anything. No one is 'out of anyone's league', and people who think that are just shallow.
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reader, Dazzerg +, writes (11 January 2006):
 Again i have to largely concur with Dawnest. Enlist a third or even a fourth party to make things smoother and the situation less pressured. Thinking in terms of leagues is unhelpful even though i am one to talk as i have done it. You are two people and if you are right for each other then the whole notion of leagues is irrelevant.
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reader, Dawnest +, writes (11 January 2006):
Smile/chat be friendly. But if you have problems being in his company then enlist the help of a mutual friend who can pave the way for you by telling him that you like him a lot but feel intimidated in his company.Double date so that he doesnt feel backed up against the wall and being in company will help you to feelconfident and friendly.
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