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writes:I am having a big problem. I am in my first year of college and have fallen hard for this amazing guy. We are both crazy about each other. We started messing around but he only wants to please me... He does not ever want me to give him head or even a hand job. We tried having sex once but he got really nervous. He is.. was a virgin. He has never been with a girl in any way before so I am kind of the first everything. How can I show him he shouldn't be nervous around me? And how do I understand why he only wants to please me?Thanks:)
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reader, Illithid +, writes (8 December 2009):
 He sounds like me. I like to give to a girlfriend, to go down for her, to serve her, to be awesome for her, but I don't really feel comfortable getting back because then I feel selfish and greedy. I know it's unpleasant to give a man oral, so I don't ask any girl to make that sort of sacrifice for me. "Tis better to give than receive" right? So I find myself giving thanks to some insecurities that make me worry that taking anything would lead her to leave me.
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reader, paigeme142 +, writes (8 December 2009):
paigeme142 is verified as being by the original poster of the question thank you both very much!
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reader, Jumpy +, writes (8 December 2009):
aww sounds like a beginning of an awesome relationship (:
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (8 December 2009):
He wants to please you because you're his first, and he really doesn't want to get it wrong. He's also very scared that when you're pleasing him, he'll get it wrong. Basically, he's worried he will get it all wrong. You need to tell him that it's very important for your pleasure that he has pleasure, and if that fails just order him into bed and pounce on him. His worry is that he will get it all wrong, so have some patience with him, he'll get better.
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