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writes:hi everyone,This is the sum up of the story and plese ask for help. My gf and I have been 2 months together and now i'm working in other conuntry which is very close to hers..She is student and as far aas i know she is bit in a hurry to finish since she prologned the graduation and is dependend on her family,so she is ruuning out of money ..anyway after i left and even before, she was telling me to go away from her on several times, crying while speking to me this words..I said that i would, if she tells me she has absolutely no feelings for me which she couldnt becouse she has,its obvious. Now our relationship is no good at all,she is not answeting my phone calls anymore,simply she is hiding from me..I dont know what i have done or not to spur such behaviour of hers,and that is my question. I know she is depressed over her fail of exam and overall situation and maybe she is keeping aside as a result..What should I do to make her feel better and to show her that i really care and im not indifferent? I was thinking to call her live with me, I have good salary and can afford the expenses But she never ever replayed even to that offer...What you think this behaviour is sign of? What can i do to show her that im there for her and that she doesnt have to feel embaressed by hers condition at the moment, that i understand her and love her? Please any Help ,Thank you
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reader, BadAsh6705  +, writes (26 November 2007):
 It sounds like she is more unhappy with herself and her current situation and people tend to take out their feelings on those who are closest to them which is why she is acting this way to you.
She may just need time to sort things out for herself until she feels that she is on track with her life and happier.
I am a strong believer that people must first be happy with themselves before they can have a real relationship. Maybe she is not ready.
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reader, i might be a girl but i can help  +, writes (24 November 2007):
 i think its too late she does love you but i feel that she doesn't want you involved in her problems just leave her stop texting her and ringing her thats why she has her phone off she doesn't want to talk. if she wants you she will ring you and talk to you don't try talking to her its a waste of time for the moment.
good luck xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2007): i think its because of her exam results that she's acting like this. Just give her some space for a while and let her get herself up again. If she doesn't contact you in a couple of months, then try ringing her again, if she doesnt answer, then leave a message or text. say to her 'i'm here for you, whatever you're going through i'll help yu. You can't go through this alone. I love you.'Then is she replies then try talking about it. how she's feeling, how you're feeling. If she doesn't then either give her some more space or maybe it could really be over. I hope this has helped you. Please could you rate my answer? Thank you.
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