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writes:dear cupid, I have this best friend, and we've been friends for like ever... we were friends since kindergarten and now were going into grade 12. That's all fine and dandy, the problem comes when we drink together. Obviously I want to party with this girl right, but everytime we do she gets soo incredibly mad me! like last night, we were so good until we got to this bonfire and then i was just talking to this guy for a bit and i made sure she wasnt alone etc right that she had someone with her and if she was alone i went with her and we chilled and stuff.. she was having fun then but then when we started to leave she got really mad for no reason at all. i even straight up asked her why are you so mad? and she said she has no idea why she just feels mad, not necessarily at me but just in general. Later we met up with these guys to walk home, and i was play fighting with two of them (not at the same time) it wasnt a big deal, like we both were just playfully punching.. and she just freaked on me! I talked to her that night and she was saying how we are so different, and its definetly true. We believe in the totally opposite stuff, and she does admit shes a bitch when she drinks, and i hate how its ALWAYS me that gets yelled at or has to deal with it! I jsut wanna have fun with my buddy(her) and just chill.. my question is how can i resolve this tension between us without runining our friendship, and stil be able to party with her.ps. our friend that we were really tight with (even though we didnt know her that long) just moved to arizona, and i thought that she was just depressed.. and thats part of it because im like that too, but i dont get mad at her for no reason/talking to guys.. she actually said that she doesnt want me to go out with a guy because then she will have no friends cause i will ditch her. sorry for the length, i just thought some background would help a bit. I'm open to suggestions to how I can change to stop her getting mad if there are any. (i thought just not drinking the same time as her, which i will probably do.)thanks!!
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reader, chrissy32789  +, writes (10 June 2007):
 Growing up that long and always being best friends is hard cause one day you will find a guy and then move on, she is probly a depressed drunk when she gets drunk and sees you with guys she prolly gets depressed and thinks that if you get with this guy you will ingore her and she wont have anyone so close to her as you are, so when you two are sober you should talk to her about it and ask he what is wrong and why she is flipping out on you when you are with guys, and also if she only flips on you when she is drinking dont worrie about loosing her as a friend most people understand you was drunk and you dont mean what you said....just talk to her
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