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writes:I'm interested in this boy, and up till yesterday i thought he was interested in me.Yesterday, i had really bad PMS, and was feeling really insecure about my body and life.I mentioned this to him, and now my friend thinks i'll have come off looking desperate, needy and clingy.What can i do to rescue this possible relationship?xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTurns out, I've done something as he is no longer replying to my texts or calling me.:/i think if i persue the relationship any further I will end up looking very desperate.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (13 January 2008):
 It is only your friends perceptions. The man may not see it this way. You think you made a mistake. There is nothing you can do about that except not to mention them again to him.
You need to have confidence in yourself and don't appear to be needy or clingy. It's a turn off.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2008): I wouldnt worry either.
Everyone has down days, it doesnt make you desperate or needy.
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reader, core_confusion +, writes (12 January 2008):
 Ok. First of all, stay calm. I would think it's pretty unlikely that one day is going to ruin a genuine feeling between you. I cant speak fror every man on this, only myself, but a certain ammount of 'clingyness' can actually be quite endearing. Men like to feel needed and it tends to have that effect so dont worry too much.If you feel that something needs 'rescuing' then TALK. You know the biy in question adn I dont but I would guess that there's a caring side in there - most men have one, even if they wont admit it. Men can never exerience PMS or anything close but that doesnt mean that they dont have some kind of understanding of how it can affect you. You dont have to justify how you came accross, but there is certainly no harm in talking. Just explain that you were feeling a bit low on that day and that you feel better today. If you think it appropriate then perhaps even thank him for being so understanding. Perhaps even ask if you can take him for a drink to say thankyou (if you feel comfortable making the first move) - that way you even get a date out of the situation.Above all, and I can say this from experience - dont refuse a compliment, it can be really offputting. If he offers a complment of reassurance the politely accept it. If he says it then I'm sure he means it so enjoy the fact that he's into you.Gook luck and I hope this helps
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reader, jm81690  +, writes (12 January 2008):
 Next couple times you're with him just act confident, if he brings up you acting so insecure about yourself earlier, just tell him straight up, you were having a really shitty day.
He's not going to hold that against you, not if he's a half descent guy anyways.
If I were you I wouldn't be too worried.
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reader, Babiyance +, writes (12 January 2008):
dont be insecure, i'm sure your a lovely person,
your friends obviously aren't worth it, friends shoudln't think your needy,
just try talking to the boy, just say for example ("Hey, if you think i'm clingy don't please because i'm not, it's just i was feeling bad yesterday")
and ask your mates why they think that..
Just Try, It Will Be Fine
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