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writes:it's been 3 months since i left him, i couldn't take it and i already left nc to start my life in texas when that happened the feelings were "i can do better and better". he came down in december for my birthday, and we got engaged [we were together 2 years], i dont know if getting married just scares me or i wasnt ready, im only 20 years old. so i broke it off, everything, and when i did it i wasnt even thinking i just said it and hung up cause by then he was already back in nc. for the past 2 months ive been out partying not thinking, not feeling, not caring. well, just recently i feel, i care, and im thinking, and it really sucks cause truthfully, i wear the ring, not on the hand he put the ring on but, i wear it. i think, and i miss him, and i want it all back, but when i was with him i was the most depressed person, i gave up on myself, the whole reason why i left nc was because everything was going down hill for him and i. i guess the question is, should i keep following my dreams and this is only the hurt process and i will be okay after i get the greiving over with, or should i try to work things out with the man that was suppose to be my husband?
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reader, superrrshawna +, writes (25 March 2009):
 It's the hurting process. It will take you around a year or more to get over him, based on my proven 1/2 relationship time rule. You were together for around 2 years, so it should take you a year to get over him. But add a couple months because of how serious the relationship was.
Go out, have fun, reclaim your dreams. Relish your happiness, pride yourself on making the right decision.
Figure it out very clearly in your mind whether you miss HIM or if you miss THE IDEA OF HIM. Do you miss having someone? Or do you miss his dirty socks on your floor? That type of thing.
When you figure that out, either find a way to be with him and be happy, or take that ring off of your finger and work towards a new life.
Good luck!!
PS, 20 is very young. There's plenty of time, and too many people to still meet!
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