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writes:My girlfriend and I met on eHarmony almost a year, and it has been amazing! I feel like we were made for each other. We've called each other soulmates. I proposed to her on April 24th, 8 months after our first date.I found out today that she is feeling insecure about my past relationships. We are going to talk tonight about what specifically has been bothering her. Her problem is that I have had ex's but she hasn't. She has never held a mans hand before I met her. She was 19 when we met, and I was 24. She sometimes imagines me with my ex and it makes her sick. She mentioned how I never have to think about her with her ex's because she has none. I'll never know how it feels. I do know how it feels since my ex was quite experienced... but I'm not going to bring that up.I had previously only had intercourse with one woman, and I was 13 years old the only other time I had done anything remotely sexual. My most recent ex was 4 years ago and a terrible experience anyway.Even though I hadn't had much experience before her, I understand that she feels insecure, and I know how it feels. I love her like crazy, and I want to spend the rest of my life with her. What can I do to reinforce this and leave no doubt in her mind that she is the only one for me? I feel sick to my stomach when I think that she has doubts about us!
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reader, Duckyhelp  +, writes (8 July 2010):
 you must tell her what you have said here. but also do listen to what her problems are and sort them. Prove to her that you would do anything for her, and make her feel truely loved. maybe take her out for dinner and buy her gifts over the next few weeks. Show her that noone has ever mattered more than she does, and she is being treated like a princess because she deserves to be because you love her so much.hope this helps :)
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (8 July 2010):
You need to know her specific concerns before we can really give you any specific advice. I think you just need to remind her that all those ex's didn't work out, and it is working out with her. Listen to what she says and then respond to her to address her concerns. You need to know what they are before anything else.
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