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writes:Ok so I confronted my girlfriend about everything she's been doing and all her lies. She told me everything. She spilled her guts and now I know everything. I have a new issue that I would like help with..How can I rebuild my trust with her after I know she's cheated on me? I really want everything to work out between us because I am so deeply in love with this girl.
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reader, 1truluv +, writes (20 June 2011):
1truluv is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk, so here's the update. We broke up. I broke it off with her. It'll be much easier for both of us this way I believe. Trust is very hard to rebuild especially if she acts as if she doesn't want to even try. I'm done with trying. I'm going to stay single for awhile. Thank you all for your comments and replies. You all helped a lot. :)
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reader, Flashtony  +, writes (19 June 2011):
I'm sorry dude.... trust is like virginity, you only lose it once.... move on.
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reader, darkwarior +, writes (14 June 2011):
 first of all she broke your trust, and trust in itself is not easy to mend and what do you mean by "cheated" if shes cheated on you than to be honest she's only been thinking about herself. (lies and cheat) it all adds up and i know it hurts.
Neverthless if i was you i'd dump her and tell her to do 1 dude get a grip of yourself if shes broken your trust she should be the one who puts the effort in on gaining your trust. hope this helps
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reader, Dodds  +, writes (14 June 2011):
 There really is no quick fix or permanent way to change how you feel for her as regards trust,you just have to suck it up and let those toxic feelings go,try to change the things you say to yourself in your head...the things you think about,and this is the real challenge. Another important action to take is to find out WHY she decided to become unfaithful,what need of hers was not being met,was it monetary,sexual or emotional? Maybe she isnt that into you!! And finally can you fix those problems? Then the decision whether she is worth keeping. If you decide to keep her be prepared for alot of work in rebuilding,both on yourself and as a couple
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reader, RedAthena +, writes (14 June 2011):
 There is no fast track to trust. You need TIME and she needs to be consistant in her faithful behavior and choices.
You need to be able to forgive her for the past and not punish her for what she has done.
There are going to be good days and bad days. You are going to have negative feelings that will fade day by day...IF the love is stronger than the hurt.
Best Wishes.
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reader, Canadaboy11  +, writes (14 June 2011):
Easy man you cant. Im going through the same thing and its really tough after you lose trust in someone to just regain it. You will never trust her again no matter how hard you try. Your going to be putting yourself through so much pain trying to mend something that could never be mended and chances are that she may cheat on you again. Look forward into the future think really hard if shes the one that your going to marry.If not then don't bother wasting your time.
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reader, MamaBear +, writes (14 June 2011):
Obviously, you enjoy being hurt by the one you profess "love" for. Look around you and find another girl who will be true to you. It hurts to be betrayed as you well know. You DO NOT need this. Look for someone who is affectionate and reciprocal within the relationship. In other words, start over with someone else!
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reader, zebralove +, writes (14 June 2011):
 Well if you truly want to work things out you must accept what she did and put it in the past. You must start over and trust that it will never happen again. Do you think she is ready to commit to you in the same way you have been commited to her? Do you think she in is telling you the truth when she says it will never happen again? If so then you need to forget about it and never look back. But that is for you to decide if you are ablr to do this or not.
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