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writes:Hi,I've been with my boyfriend (that I love) for 3 months and we haven't had sex. On several occasions we've come close to doing so but I've always chickened out at the last minute. Don't get me wrong, I want to have sex but as a virgin, I am terrified that it will hurt or that i'll do something wrong. Is there anything I can do to help ease the pain beforehand? My boyfriend is two years older than me and has a lot more experience too! Reply to this Question
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reader, saltwater  +, writes (28 August 2008):
 Sex the first time is always a bit clumsy.
If you are a virgin then it will hurt; and maybe some blood will appear as well.
You can reduce some of the pain by engaging in a large amount of foreplay beforehand to help moisten you up; this reduces some of the pain and makes it more pleasureable (albeit only slightly) for you.
You don't have to rush into sex you know; you are allowed to wait until you're not terrified and you feel ready.
Now I don't want to preach to you or offend you, but 3 months into a relationship is a little early to be thinking about sex isn't it? Add the fact that you say at the end "My boyfriend is two years older than me and has a lot more experience too!"
Are you sure he isn't out just to have sex with you?
Only you can decide; just keep it in mind :-)
Good luck.
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