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writes:Ok, so recently I got with a new guy, and he has Aspergers Syndrome. He's such a lovely person, but finds it difficult to be in social groups and whatnot, and obviously acts oddly, though it doesn't bother me, recently I brought him to meet my mother, who called him "wierd", which really upset me, because he is an absolutely gorgeous person. I just want to know if there's any way I can help him with his disability. I hate the idea of people thinking badly of him just because of something he can't control. Thank you to anybody who can help =] Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2008): I am an Aspie. I know lots of other Aspies. You have a good chance of having Aspie children. Make sure you love what Asperger is before you make it your life.
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reader, PsyCookie  +, writes (28 August 2008):
 As a person who has the Asperger's Syndrome, I can give you some insight.
Like baby duck said, google Asperger's Syndrome and read all about it and get informed. It's the best first step you can ever do to talk to him.
And just keep being nice to him, don't treat him differently. (We) People with Asperger's realize our obstacles and it's indeed so hard many times to talk to people, but luckily for him he has a great friend that can help him in here.
For me, it was my boyfriend who has gotten me through this, and I have actually gotten better. One highlight for a person with Asperger's is that even though we are uncomfortable around society, it doesn't mean we can fake it. I learned throuhout all of these years how to talk/approach/conversate with people by just observing others doing this, and hopefully he does the same. I still have my quirks, and I'm often in my little world, but I'm so thankful my friends just see me as the cute little qurky girl who's kind of free-spirited.
So for him, hopefully it will become easier an easier to interact with people, if he puts effort on it. I still get uncomfortable around social gatherings, but I know how to get through it. I read that when a person with Asperger's becomes older, the symptoms decrease, so I guess this is the reason why I have felt I gotten better.
Being in an advanced English class helped me A LOT to develop my speech skills. Before I hit 9th grade (when I started my AP classes), I had a lot difficulty expressing myself and I would often forget words. 4 years later, I'm able to talk more, almost to the an annoying point. I still struggle, but not like before. So if your friend can deal with all the homework that comes with these classes, then I highly recommend him to get them. It will help him advanse.
So in the end I'll just tell you to not treat him any differently from your other friends. We are still aware of our feelings, just can't express them as well. Remember that.
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