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writes:Hi aunts and uncles, so i have a question that i know will probably make me seem really naive at my age but I really need some advice. Ok so without sounding weird about it, iv got this really good friend and recently our relationship has become more serious and things are moving on, bascially to cut a long story short i need some advice on how to pleasure him. I have never been in any kind of relationship before so i am very inexperienced and would just like some advice on what i can do. Any advice that you can give would be amazing, so thank you in advance :) Reply to this Question
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (15 September 2010):
 Haha, I love this topic so much I came back already. Mostly because I was so focused on what you can do in my last post that I forgot one important thing. That thing being: Things you can let him do to you.
He'll find great pleasure in touching you. Feeling your breasts, bum, hips, back, legs, everything! Cloths on or cloths off, it's all good.
Man, how could I have forgotten to mention that?!?
When exploring a sexual relationship the other thing to always keep in mind is that you should never do anything you aren't comfortable with. Don't let him push you to go further. There is never a need to rush. Cheers!
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reader, dirtball +, writes (15 September 2010):
Mmmmmm, I love this question. Really, I'd like to know a little more though. You have TONS of options, and it all revolves around where you are in your relationship, and how comfortable you are with eachother. If you want to share some of that info, the specifics will roll in. I'll share with you some general things that guys like.
Kissing: Gentle passionate kisses are great. Did you know that the lips have the highest concentration of nerve endings of anywhere on your body? Yup. Don't just kiss on the lips though. Kiss his neck, nibble his earlobe, kiss his chest, and if you're comfortable enough, kiss him "downstairs" too. You may want to wait for a while for that though.
Touching: This is a great way to show the intensity you're feeling. You can be gentle, almost like tickling, or firm. Pulling hair or finger nails down the back can be a ver intense feeling. I love when a woman puts her hand on my leg and slowly works it up to my privates as well. This works both with or without cloths. General body contact is great as well. Holding eachother close, sitting on his lap, pressing yourself up against him, all these things will give him a lot of enjoyment.
Shoot, this is going to get long.
Handjob: I don't know if you're ready for this or not. Don't rush it if you're not, but it's a great way to pleasure your man. The key is to be gentle. You're not milking a cow or trying to yank it off, you're gently stroking it. You'll know he's into it because his breathing will change, his hips will probably start to move and if he's helpful, he'll guide you. Lube can be very helpful her, but also messy. I'd suggest massage oil over something like lotion. The key is to be confident in your decision to go for it. It's fun to play and tease by stimulating it outside of his pants or underwear, but when you dive in, you're going for it. I love it when a girl goes for it, almost more then the fact that she's playing with me.
I think that's the furthest I'll go for right now. There are actually lots of real good instructions for blowjobs on this site, just do a quick search for that word and you'll find what you're looking for.
The last point I'll make here is that communication is very important and should be utilized before, during and after sexual contact. Your inexperience isn't something you should fear, it's something you should embrace. Let him know you want him to teach you how to please him. To a lot of guys, that will be a turn on in itself. This is also something to take with you into possible future relationships. Everyone is different, so what worked on one partner, might not on the next. Open communication is a great way to know if you're on the right track. It can be as simple as; faster, slower, softer, right there.
Feel free to PM me if you want me to clarify or further explain my answers.
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