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writes:How can i not be shy around my cousin who is a boy?
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reader, LoveJoy +, writes (30 July 2008):
 Im 13 and my step bro is 15 we r like best m8s but i do get shy sometimes around him but once u r sure that he is ok and won't do nothing you'll be more and more confident ;)
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reader, rosebudd27 +, writes (30 July 2008):
try talking to him more and be confident, you dont want him to get the wrong idea that you fancy him,
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reader, tryin2helpu  +, writes (30 July 2008):
 well im 14 and my cousin is 15 and we are pretty close, just think of him as a brother, or something, thats what i do and it works. xoxo
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reader, ChiRaven +, writes (30 July 2008):
 How old is this cousin?
You are at an age when you are particularly conscious of yourself, and that tends to make people very shy, particularly in the presence of people whose approval they are seeking. My guess is that it is important to you, for whatever reason, that your cousin have a good opinion of you.
Understand the shyness for what it is ... your emotional reaction to a growing awareness of your own identity and your desire to win your cousin's approval. About the only way to get over this shyness is to loosen up a little and give yourself permission to relax. Realize that you are certainly NOT going to make any irrevocable mistakes in front of your cousin, and if you make some small ones the earth is NOT going to open up and swallow you whole. Whatever happens, your cousin will forget about it as soon as it's over. Just don't make a big deal out of things.
Shyness is related to fear. Fear is what happens when we are unsure of our ability to cope with a situation we find ourselves in. For the first time in your life you are being expected to function as a member of society on your own, not just as a part of your parents' family. This puts pressure on you not to make mistakes, and particularly when faced with people you really do not want to mess up with it does lead to this kind of fear. If you recognize this for what it is, you can begin to let it go, and to tell yourself that you know you CAN cope with the need to function socially in front of your cousin. As you do this you should find the shyness begin to gradually go away.
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