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writes:I have been in an intense relationship for 5 months. We met the day he was released from prison after 2 years. Before he was my bf he seemed a little standoffish but I thought it was just b/c of everything he had been thru. Now however, since we moved in together a month ago he's stopped any kind of affection at all, kissing, hugging, I'm serious anything at all. We still have really great sex that hasn't changed at all. But as soon as its over he's back to ignoring me. He thinks I should take care of his every need and I do, I wouldn't mind either but since I feel like his buddy now I am starting to resent him in a big way. I should mention that I am crazy in love with him and I want to make it work so so badly!! Help me! Leaving him at this point is not an option for me. Is it damage from prison? Should I wait to see if he changes after he adjusts?
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reader, natmarie  +, writes (25 August 2010):
 Hi, I;m really sorry you are having to go through this. i went through a very similar thing eg: the emotional and physical withdrawal from my BF up until last week when I broke it off for my own sanity. I still love him and miss him, but it hurts so bad being treated like that. As the other reader said ' He knows you belong to him now' and that is actully quite scary, as look at what he is doing to you. I think HE has the problem, not you, and I 'm not overley convinced it is to do with the damage done in prison.i think we make excuses for the opnes we loves bad behaviour sometimes. Is he controlling otherwise? I know it is very hard when the sex is good - mine was too, but just to ignore you afterwards is cruel, and a bit abusive. Maybe he just cannot comunicate with you , and has serious difficulty relating on any kind of deep emotional level. It;s very hard to accpet - I know, but how you going to fix him if thats' the case? My BF was all over me until I got close to him and showed him that I cared.That's when he wnet cold.Let me know how you are getting on and dealing with this. NatMairexx
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reader, LiloCoke +, writes (25 August 2010):
well obviously ur bf has some psychological issues in terms on what a relationship is, or even how it is to treat a partner. It doesn't seem like he has an idea about ur needs and ur emotions, he just knows u belong to him now and he doesn't need to care more, trust me, some people have this psychological dysfunction, inability to communicate and react to other people's needs..Further on, sex will become ordinary thing and you will realize that he is ignorant to your needs and you'll just get more and more hurt by that man's actions (or on actions at all).
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reader, cocoqueen88 +, writes (25 August 2010):
 Sounds like you need to have a conversation with him. There's really no way that we can tell you what's on his mind.
I'm just curious to know why are you soooo invested after 5 months? toward the end when you said "I should mention that I am crazy in love with him and I want to make it work so so badly!! Help me! Leaving him at this point is not an option for me." No offense but it seems a little like a teenage kind of thing.
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