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anonymous
writes:ive been dating this guy for a month now. and we have been friends for a long time before we have started dating. since we started, he has become very clingy and has been calling me every single day and asking me what i am doing. and tells me he really needs me because he misses me so much. is there any way possible that i can make him tone it down a bit? Reply to this Question
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reader, forceful  +, writes (1 July 2008):
Hi, Clingy from your boyfriend is a sign of jealousy, there are several types to watch for, It might be best to not get to close to him. Because clingy is always a sign of jealousy. Here are signs to watch for? Here are the different styles of jealousy? The Clingy behavior,paronoid, manipulative, and exhibitionistic. Since your boyfriend falls under clingy, He can be smothering, overwhelming, touchy, picky, hurt when you don't tell him your thought, feelings, and idea. I would closely monitor his behavior in the coming months. Personally I would use the wait and see approach.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2008): dear anonymous:i think his just glad that u guys are together
his probably non-stop thinking about it its kinda sweet but just tell him to take it slow
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2008): well i agree with you that it is nice, but too much too fast. It makes a guy seem desperate when he comes on too strong like that. I love sincerity, but can't stand someone who can't stand on his own. If you truly had a good friendship foundation, then I would suggest a heart to heart talk. Be delicate because there is no reason to hurt feelings. But I fear that if you don't try to slow things down a bit you will break his heart because you'll lose interest.
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reader, Flporrego  +, writes (1 July 2008):
 You know, theres plenty of girls who are flattered by that. Who like that in a guy. I say if you dont like him how he is, then tell him your better off as friends. Dont try to change him to best fit your personality. He seems like a nice guy. He likes you a lot. Dont push that away. If you dont like it, tell him. And leave it up to him to change. But let him know its not a bad quality. Im like that. And so is my girlfriend. And we are happy together because we fit each other so well. In a relationship, There will always be things that you hate and love about each other. Try to focus on things that you like. Maybe they will help erase the clingyness that you do not like. But if its really THAT bad. Just talk to him. Dont make him completely change it. Just tell him its a bit early int he relationship to be acting like that. He will understand. He might be upset though. I hope everything works out! Keep me updated!
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