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writes:Hi There,Im having extreme self esteem issues. I constantly look in the mirror and say i look sooo ugly. I sort of have acne like my forehead between my eyebrows. It isnt really bad, but i have dark blemishes there. It doesnt seem to bother people too much, because there are always alot of boys trying to talk to me, but even tho i recieve compliments about how pretty or beautiful i look, i still think i am ugly.also, i have an issue with my weight. I'm about 5'2" and 125 pounds i know thats an healthy weight, but i feel like im too skinny all the time, im constantly in the mirror saying i need to gain a few more pounds, which leads me to binge eat alot to gain weight the unhealthy way. I have a fear of becoming anorexic. I think it might be because a couple years ago i started working out and constantly loosing weight, and then i stoppeed working out, but i didnt know how to eat correctly because my metabolism was faster so i still lost weight and i didnt know why. My moms critized me all the time calling me anorexic and it really made me feel bad.Please help me figure out what i should do to get over this!..thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2007): Has your mum actually ever seen an anorexic person - face to face? She would know the difference. You are perfectly healthy and its attitudes like that, which are fuelled by the media hype, that make perfectly normal young women like yourself grow up paranoid. Your body changes throughout life. What does your Mum look like? Is she very large or average or slim?? I'm afraid I have to say that part of me wonders if she is concerned and the other part is concerned that she is controlling you a little and keeping your esteem in a lower place. This is probably not deliberate but you need to make it clear to her that you are perfectly healthy 'thanks all the same'. I have been in your shoes and it did the very same thing to me - but the mother was not mine it was my boyfriends (she just didn't like me). As for your spots I am 35 and still get a few - I think most women do - I have always found that clay based products work well. Be gentle on your skin and try not to touch your face. Drink lots of water too and try herbal tea if you can. Also start to treat yourself kindly. When other people are cruel to you, and tell you that you are something bad you tend to 'adopt' those things and become it (mentally) even if you are not physically. It is a time to break free from the blind loyalty that keeps you down trodden by family members who should be positive about you and love you the way you are. Find strength in new experiences and interests and you will find that your confidence will climb.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2007): Babe, you're the perfect size. Unless you want a big butt or something, but our bodies can't change in that way..unless you got a butt implant. Guys are always talking to you, you must be attractive. I am 5'11'' & I weigh 190. Which is overweight. Guys never talk to me, I am probably like a giant to most guys. But I don't care because I like myself. Although I could lose a few pounds. Anyways, most women aren't happy with their size or body. But you do not sound anorexic at all. Or big, so be happy. And tell your mom how she's making you feel b/c that's not healthy..
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reader, youonlyliveonce  +, writes (12 September 2007):
try to keep a balance between eating and excercisng, you have a fine weight and changing it won't necessarily be good for you. if you can make yourself feel better about how you look in general, you might find your weight is less of a concern. try talking to your mum about how you feel and explain that she isn't helping, and you could do with some support now. it doesn't sound like you need to worry about anorexia as you think you're to thin! if all else fails, you could see a doctor to reassure you that you are normal??
as for acne, i have exactly the same thing... try to ignore it and not let it get to you, there are always creams and prescriptions you can get if you feel it is destroying your confidence.
try to think positive things when you look in the mirror, a positive view of yourself will make you feel a lot better!
xx
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reader, Gemini1506 +, writes (12 September 2007):
Tell your mum how she's making you feel and prove to her you are trying. Eat normally but bigger meals and a little snack ib between should get your weight up healthy.
when people tell you your pretty build on it and take their word for it and smile and be happy someone noticed you in that way. You probably are a gorgeus girl and does 'blemishes' will go as you grow up more.
Just try to be postive in everything you do even when people knock you back because they probably do it out of jealously. It does make a differance
Best of luck
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reader, baybee-x-sparkii +, writes (12 September 2007):
 okay ur self esteems takin a knock here so the way i got mine back was by doing something i could see i was really good at and then getting confident tht way.... plus try wearing stuff tht compliments ur figure, that u like and feel you look good in.your mum shouldnt be critisizing you like this and your allowed to feel bad but she shouldnt be treating you like this darling ur prob better than this.you sound like ur very healthy u jst need to eat the right food and take the right exercise, i would say dnt go back to the training though....and listen to the guys, i mean compliments are awesome to recieve and they make u feel awesome...Good luck babe if u wanna chat mail me pleasexx Sparkii xx
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