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writes:The past few days my girlfriend is always in a bad mood. There will be times where she in a great mood, and then all of the sudden her mood just change into a bad mood. When she in a bad mood she just seem so dead. I have no experience on what to say or how to help out. Can you guys help me out on what to talk about? or what to say? because whenever this happen I become speechless and I have no idea what to say but just worry. She can't go out and her parents doesn't really know that we're dating so I can't just go to her house or take her out. What can I do to make her feel better? please help me out. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone for your input... Thank you guys so much... reason why I can't visit her at her house is because she 16 and I am 19... she is not suppose to have a boyfriend until she 18 or older because her parents are worry about stuff.. and since she not 18 they don't really let her go out. We are hmong and hmong is very strict with ages between their children dating... since she under age I can be in trouble that is why.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (13 November 2011):
Tisha pretty much sums this one up. More than anything, when a girl/woman us upset they really want to know that someone will listen and care for them, without judging and without making suggestions. All you need to do is listen. The other week my girlfriend had a very bad day at work and I spent 1 and a half hours listening to her go from angry, to upset, to happy, back to angry, then to upset, and finally happy again. Pretty crazy! But, she was okay after that.
You just need to listen.
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reader, goldie22 +, writes (13 November 2011):
I'll b honest i can be quite moody at times.and it is often down to a mixture of hormones and stress which could be the case with ur girlfriend. Just ask her if she is ok. Tell her that you.love her and how special she is to you. Can i ask why she cant go out.and why you cant.see her at her house? Perhaps that is why shes a little moody and maybe we can advise you better if you explain x
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (13 November 2011):
 "Emma, I notice every now and again you seem to get very quiet and sad. It makes me feel protective and I want to do what I can to make you happy. I'm not really good with words or things like that but I just want you to know something. When you feel sad or upset or unhappy, imagine that I am putting my arms around you and that we are together and I am doing everything I can to make you smile again."
You don't have to do tap dances or come up with interesting conversation, most girls just want to know someone is aware of how they are feeling and cares about them.
If you are 16-17, and she is presumably the same age, why don't her parents know that you are dating? That seems to be a very big secret for something that isn't that shocking or unlawful.
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (13 November 2011):
 Try little things like reminding her that you think she is beautiful and why you like her. Even if you can't be there a quick text or message saying something sweet can really help.
Most of the time there is no point giving a long winded speach because the things she is mad about are most likely part of growing up and since you can't fix them you can only offer little things to help her get through them.
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