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anonymous
writes:me and my gf have been together for a year and 2months now. We have known each other all our lives and have always been close friends. We started having sex about 7 months now but when we do she will never take her bra off, sometimes she doesnt like taking her top off either. She knows what i think of her and how beautiful i think she is, i admit she isn't as big as some women but she knows that doesn't bother me, i don't go for the best loking women i have never had a gf before her because i've never wanted one as i've been in love with her for years. She knows me really well we have spent most dyas of our lives together and been through the awkward moments together so i don't see why she can't bring herself to do this. When i asked her she says she feels embarrassed i've told her theres no need to be. I have seen her totally naked before but it was before we started going out. She was getting changed from having a shower and i was going upstairs to talk to her brother and her door wasn't shut all the way but she doesn't know this. How can i get her to be more confident about herself? You can see that it bothers her yet she aways said she doesn't want big ones and ould never dream of any surgery which i really wouldn't like her to have cuz theres no need for it. Please help i really wanna help her over come this!
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reader, chrissa +, writes (3 January 2009):
hi there maybe if you make a big thing of the situation in ur mind but dont let her know this. If your desperate to make her feel the same way as yourself then i think i may have the solution. one day keep promisimg her a surprisingly good night, first offer her a shower together but she may not go for this if she is so self concious. Light some candles sprinkle some rose petals on the bed lay them out with some massage cream, make her feel the special one, offer her a full body massage but hold off the temtation of going straight for her breasts as attractive as you may find them. Maybe start with her legs it might be unusual but hopefuly she will be relaxed enough to at least undo her bra by the time you get there make a big thing of her other private areas then she doesnt notice a difference in attitude, all the time tellin her how attractive she is, how much you love her and how shes the special one. Keep it light GOOD LUCK if it doesnt work the first time keep trying she will come round.
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reader, candy00s +, writes (29 May 2007):
 Just reassure her that she is beautiful and that you wouldnt change anything about her.
take it slow, try turning off the lights and build up to it gradually.
just take it slow and dont push her too much.
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reader, laurie-loo +, writes (28 May 2007):
 i was the same when i was first with my boyfrend, im really small on top and was always embarrased. ive even once left my jacket on during sex! but once i started feeling more at ease and comftable, with him keep reasuring me how highly he thought i started to feel more confident with myself. when your having sex, even if she has a bra on you will still be able to see the full size of her breasts, so kiss them and touch them and tell her how you think theyre perfect size. once you build up her self esteem and show her you like her the way she is she will probably be happy enough to take them off.dont pressure her into taking it off as she may end up feeling hurt and embarased if she does it before she feels ready. i know its only something simple but she might not feel ready to take this step to show you whats under her t-shirt just yet! good luck ! xxx
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (28 May 2007):
 Well, here's an idea. I'm just brainstorming here, trying to figure out something that might help. Maybe what your girlfriend needs is baby steps. Maybe suggest that she blindfold you and then let you feel her completely naked. Then you can feel her breasts without looking at them.
Use that time to tell her how perfect they feel, how beautiful they feel. But don't PUSH her, don't rip off your blindfold or anything. Let her move at her own pace, with you gently guiding her.
Or maybe you could have sex in pitch darkness, so that she doesn't feel like you're looking at her. Then next time add in a candle or something so that it's still dim, but you can see her fully. Again, reassure her that she's beautiful, etc.
I'm just trying to throw out ideas here. Maybe go skinny dipping or take a shower together? Throw her in a white t-shirt or something so that she'll feel covered up, but once wet - you'll be able to see the goods.
Slowly, but surely. Just KEEP REASSURING. Never, ever stop reassuring her that she's beautiful. You sound like a good, patient boyfriend. Keep it up!
xxIndia
P.S. Don't bring up the fact that you've already seen her naked. That will only embarrass her more!!
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reader, DV1 +, writes (28 May 2007):
 Tell her that you think that she's beautiful, and that you're proud to show her off to everyone...
DV1
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