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writes: I am 15 and I am still a virgin I no it is against the law to have sex before you are 16 but my 2 best mates are having sex and have been since I have known them I think I am ready to have sex but I carnt help but keep thinking it is going to really hurt! What can I do to make it less painful??? and what do I say to my sexual partner when we do have sex???? HELP PLEASE !!!!! Thank guys xxxXxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2008): as a 26 year old male, my advice would be to not have sex just because your friends are and you think you should be too. As a teen everyone thinks it is so cool to be having sex, but a few years later in your twenties guys have way more respect for a girl who hasn't been sleeping around since she was 15. Basically I am saying you may be jealous now of your friends but in 5 or years they will be singing a different song and be jealous of you for remaining respectable. I can't tell you how many times I have heard girls say, "it seems like all guys want from me is sex..." well that because they know that you will probably give it up fairly easily, if they know that you won't and that they will have to "work for it", you will weed out the sleazy guys quickly and have much healthier relationships.
And finally No guy really wants to marry a girl thats been with a ton of different dudes. But, if you really think its the best idea to have sex after thinking about all of this I just said, make sure the guys are special and respect you and don't give yourself away to easily or to often.
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reader, jack23 +, writes (11 October 2006):
 I would say you do need to be with someone that you really care for, dont just do it because you think you may be ready, make sure its with someone that you care about. You can only lose you viginity once, make it one that you can be happy with remembering.
Who ever you do it with talk to them, and if they are right for you they will understand. Tell them you need to take it slow and to stop when ever you say. If you feel really nervous I would say to not do it, wait until you are comfortable to have sex.
You mates may already be doing it, but you are the only person that can decide what is right for you.
Hope this helps :)
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reader, lilmzmoffett +, writes (11 October 2006):
 Sex is not scary. It is something you share with someone you have strong feelings for, maybe even love. It is sore thats true. The first couple of times. But i was petrified of sex until I met a very special guy. And i was the one who in the heat of the moment asked him if we could have sex. Now we are married and have a child. I was 18 when this happened. Alot more maturer than 15. I have a friend who has just turned 16 and she is pregnant because she was too immature and saw sex as a game, not as a beautiful thing between two people. So trust me wait. If the guy your thinking of doing this with wont wait, then he is not the one. Trust me please wait.
Ps: Oh and it will hurt, no denying that!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2006): u cant, its going to hurt no matter what, but eveyone is different, u may not hurt all that much. just take it slow and tell ur partner to take it slow and be gentle.
good luck
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