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writes: I am married and have been for nearly 5 years. I am 24 and my husband is 28. I met a 20 year old man a year and a half ago who i have fallen head over heels with. The problem is I dont have to guts to leave my husband for him. I want to but I love them both. From one day to the next I change my mind from one to the other. But i cant give up either. My husband doesnt make much effort in our relationship but is stable supportive and loves me. The other man shows me so much affection but is not very grown up. He lives with his mum and really has never had to do anything for himself. What shall I do. Is it possible to love two people?
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reader, steemo  +, writes (11 October 2006):
 think of all the pros and cons befor you make you move is it really that bad with your bloke is they better waiting for you just because the man you with dont seem as intresting as you would like they could be other aspects like he is there when you need him hes not going to batter you .you no you can trust him ect just think befor you do anything
this fling could just be a game to the other person it were me when i had an affair beleave me i said id leave my person and alsots to to make the other person happy cos i no what i were doing were wrong .... i never left and it went on two years and im glad i dint leave
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reader, Jenga +, writes (11 October 2006):
Hi girls, I agree. Do what makes you happy, both of you. We don't get any second chances with life, it's not a game where you get "free lives" if you screw up. Doesn't matter if you have children or not. Your willing to sacrifice happiness for your child's sake, nothing wrong with that. But one day he/she will leave the house and by then you would have missed your greatest years, and will probably have a few lines and wrinkles to top it off. All a child needs is love and support, they don't have issues, we do! Wake up and smell the roses, youre both young and time waits for no-one. I truly believe that we have the answers to all our question inside us, sadly we're always complaining harder than we listen.
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reader, lilmzmoffett +, writes (11 October 2006):
 My husband puts nothing but money into our relationship. He works long hours. I never see him except for the odd day off that falls on my day off and he treats me like dirt because he is insecure about himself. Oh and he has had many thin girlfriends and after the birth of our son, I couldnt shake the baby weight.
But Im still in love with my x of four years. I want to be with him but I made the silly mistake of marrying my hubby when we found out I was pregnant.
I cant make up my mind but now my x doesnt want to talk to me because I wont leave my idiot husband. Its too hard!
But life is all about taking risks. If you never do, then you'll never know. By the looks of your question, it doesnt seem to me that you have any kids. Its easier to leave then.
Do what makes you happy. It is possible to love two people as thats my dilema too. But do what makes you happy and stick with it.
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