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anonymous
writes:It seems like my girlfriend cannot orgasm at all. During sex or when i give her oral sex her legs shake she says it is "too much" and "too sensitive" after a while. Because of this, we have to stop. We have had sex and oral sex at least a hundred times, but I feel bad because I can't make her orgasm. She said her previous boyfriends did the same things but they DID make her orgasm but they had to hold her down because she would be moving too much and she says it was difficult for her to keep still because it was overstimulating. How can I make her orgasm easily?
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reader, banannine +, writes (21 March 2007):
 Farris is totally right. if you focus on the clitorus specifically its very painfull and quite frustrating. ok im goign to be realy graffic to try and get it across.
the clit is like a little triangle. it has a hood on the front of it and opens towars the back. back beong the side facing the but. that little skin on the front of it can be used to stimulate the sencitive part itself. when playing with your fingers. you cant touch the nerve with your finger, when it swells it will hurt, but you can touch it with her own skin. same goes to the toung. toungs are not made of silk, ive had that problem before. (im quite sensitive) where the toung, is fucusing too much on the "spot" and god does it hurt. dont move your toung up and down, for sencitive women it causes pain. and dont do the sharp dragon toung thing that men do. keep a FLAT toung, and move your head from side to side. or around. that way you are not focusing on any area in particular.
the very peak of the little triange, before it opens to the nerve endings, (clit) it also very sensitive, if you stipilate that stin gently and directly she wont feel pain, stick to the skin. but make sure that you listen to her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionFarris, thanks for you answer. Do you think I should have less direct clitoral stimulation then, not focusing on it too much?
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reader, Farris  +, writes (10 March 2007):
 I know this EXACT feeling... I'm not sure if all women get it, which is why CD's advice is not the same as mine.
Basically, with all stimulation, there's good, really good and too much. I think the best way for you to understand this is to experiment on yourself. The tip of the penis is very similar to the clitoris, if you pull back (if you have it) your foreskin and go straight to rubbing the most sensitive part, it would probably be painful.
Either way, you don't really need to experience this to be able to make her orgasm, but it's easier to understand.
The only advice I can give you for this is just to keep practicing. When your girlfriend's legs shake it means that you're not stimulating her in the right way. Change what you're doing. Usually, changing direction and pressure helps. Sooner or later, you'll learn what she loves and you'll be able to make her climax!
Good luck & best wishes!
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reader, cd206 +, writes (9 March 2007):
 It sounds like she's making you stop before she can come. It being too much and too sensitive sound like classic signs of the build up to an orgasm. That said, I can't understand why she's making you stop at that point. If you're feeling insecure about your maneouvers why not watch her pleasure herself. Then you can see what pleases her and imitate it. However it seems to me that the big problem here might be something completely different. Why is she making you stop?
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