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writes:Im 15, 16 in december. My boyfriend is nearly 17. We really like each other and i dont think i have ever felt like this with a guy before. We are very open with each other and are both virgins.I was thinking about losing my virginity to him once we have been together abit longer.He told me he wanted to lose his virginity to someone special. I was talking to him on the phone and he told me his mates had made a bet on us. when i asked what about he wouldnt tell me. i said is it if i will have sex with you and he said yes. I got abit pissed off and we had a little arguement about it. He then said not to take it so seriously and that he wasnt in on the bet and it annoyed him abit too, but i should take it as a compliment because he thinks im special enough to loose his verginity with.I dunno what to make of this. What are your thoughts. If i were to sleep with him b4 16 would it be wrong??
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2007): The only reason his friends are interested in your relationship is because they have nothing else to do in their boring lives. They've obviously got no better way to spend their time, no girlfriends themselves, and are probably jealous of their mate's relationship with you. You should confront them and tell them that what you do (or don't do) with your bf is none of their damn business and if they're so interested in sex to go and buy themselves some Playboys, a jar of vaseline and some Kleenex cos if they're that immature, that's the closest they'll be getting to sex for some time.
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reader, kendall17 +, writes (9 March 2007):
just talk to him about it and make him realise that his immature mates are putting annoying pressure onto him to loose his virginity. this pressure could end up in him finishing it with you which is what no-one wants.
as it is against the law dont have sex with him yet, hold off and wait for the right time, right place and when you get the feeling that you would like to... go for it. although there is alot of pressure on you to do it i recommend you hold back because you dont want to regret it. holding back can make you feel better and enjoy the sex more. good luck
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reader, cd206 +, writes (9 March 2007):
 Well you can't exactly berate him for telling his mates. I'm fairly sure you'd mention it to a couple of yours too. It's just tht when a guy has sex at ur age he becomes known as a stud whereas the girl becomes known as a slut. Double standards? Yes. But that's the way life is...
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2007): If you were to sleep with him before you are 16 then it would be illegal. Wait until you are 16 before making your relationship sexual. As for the bet that must make you feel a bit annoyed about him mates not taking your and your boyfriend's relationship seriously but it doesn't look like your boyfriend is too pleased to have a bet on him about losing his virginity to you (and making you lose your virginity too). Remember, don't be forced into having sex.
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reader, aunty t  +, writes (9 March 2007):
 I dont think that your boyfriend was in on the bet but you cant be sure that he wouldnt tell them afterwards. I think he is very immature and has alot of growning up to do. Having sex before 16 is against the law so i would hold off for that reason alone. Take your time there is no awful hurry and I would make sure you are 100% ready to lose your virginity to this guy. I would also tell him that anything that happens in your relationship is between the two of you and you want it kept that way.
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reader, kat14 +, writes (9 March 2007):
kat14 is verified as being by the original poster of the question yer i said to him about i was annoyed coz if we did sleep together he'd tell all his mates. He told me he wouldnt and got pissed of that i thought he would do that.
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reader, cd206 +, writes (9 March 2007):
If you sleep with him before you turn 16 you're breaking the law. I advise you to wait only because he and his friends sound pretty immature and I think you should give it some time to see how you feel in a few months about things. As for the bet that's just what guys do because at 16 theyre all immature freaks. What you might want to be a little bothered about is that he obviously talks to them about this stuff since how would they find out who won the bet unless he told them? At 15 you want to be very careful about sleeping with a guy who'll tell all his mates about it. It's very easy to get a reputation. However, all of the above said it might be a good idea to visit your doctor and have a chat about contraception so that if you do decide to sleep with him you're prepared. Don't let any 16 year old guy tell you that if he pulls out before you come you won't get pregnant. It's a lie!
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