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writes:I've been with my partner for 13 years. We have 3 children under the age of 6. It took 6 years of trying for my first child, and the other 2 came very soon after. My partner is loving, caring, and a great dad, but I worry my love for him has become more like that of a brother and sister. How can I love him again like I used to? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2011): "3 children under the age of 6"I've been there, and to put it bluntly, all you can do is manage day to day when you have that much work, plus jobs and other responsibilities as well.How can you love him like you used to?I guess, that depends exactly upon what you mean by that. Talk is important, open, frank, honest, and intimate talk, about feelings, fears, hopes, dreams, etc.Don't be shy.If things are getting bad between you two, then get a counselor to help. Most of the time it is simply misunderstandings that pile up one on top of the other.
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reader, Fate100percent +, writes (22 June 2011):
Three kids under 6, I bet that is hard work and tiring too! Have you got any family/friends that could have the kids for the night? Or babysit for you, so you can go out on a date together just the two of you? I have friends similar ages to you that have mentioned the brother/sister thing too, so I guess it can be normal (they said it's because you're tired/working/putting the kids first etc)That said, they do make time for each other to go out as a couple too, which I think is important. So maybe try doing something with each other once a week/forthnight like a romantic night out. You could take it in turns to decide (so it's your night one time and what you want to do and theirs the next time?) If that doesn't work, maybe counselling or something? But sometimes your feeling do just change over a long time and you realise you've just outgrown each other :-/
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