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female
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26-29,
anonymous
writes:I'm in a complicated relationship with this guy. We are not together, but we are somewhat talking I guess. We are close friends who have feelings for each other.We made a vow that we would always be open and honest with each other no matter the circumstance. About absolutely everything. The problem with this is that, with the feelings that we have for each other, being open and honest causes a lot of jealousy in our relationship. I was talking to him on the phone when he asked me " DO you talk to any other guys?", I responded with no. he says you're lying to me, We went back and fourth forever!! because he wanted me to admit something that wasn't true, and he eventually told me that he didn't trust me when it came to that.. He said that he's cheated on girls before and that he feels like I am to good to be true and I'm going to break his heart and cheat on him because of KARMA! He said he had a dream that he was even more in love with me then before and that he walked in on me cheating on him and when he confronted me about the issue I acted like I didn't care and then I had another guy, as soon as the argument was over. I want him to trust me more than anything because I've never been the type to cheat but I don't know How to earn his trust ? he says its something he just has to feel and be comfortable with. but the problem is I don't trust him either because he's the one with the past ? but we're at this place where even if he was talking to other girls I couldn't get mad we're not in a relationship and vise versa. I love this guy so much and I know he loves me too, I'm not the type to believe that love and trust are the same. I just need help. What do I do? I wouldn't want to pursue a relationship with anyone when we doubt each other. How do we...trust ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2013): Both of you need to take the plunge / the risk and be in a relationship! You talk as if you are in one, you tell each other everything, but neither of you is accepting you are in a relationship and have feelings for each other, which is why you are both feeling jealous.
Assume each other as a partner, commit to one another, be true, keep the open communication and build on the trust so that his past and insecurities can diminish and you can be happy with each other, officially!
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