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writes:hi i am new here, I am at my middle age, I want to share my recent experiences meeting a guy in online dating site, and i need some advice, thank you for taking your time to read my message. I opened an account in an online dating March this year, i am looking for a marriage, i received a feedback from a guy soon after in early April, he said he is a guy from USA, now serving as a supporting memeber in Iraq, things gone really fast, he had planned to come to meet me this Sept when his contract finish in end August, and he addressed to me many many times his coming is not for fun and playing heart with me, he said come over is to marry with me. Since we start communicate from early April till now we online text communicate almost everyday, each time around 1-2 hrs, i feel he is serious to me, and of course i am serious too, our communication is alright and normal, but i just cannot help myself thinking he is a faker because i cannot imagine how could he consider marry me but we never meet in person, he said he is single, never married, he broke up with his girlfriend before he set out to iraq 5 years ago, his ex- bretrayed him, so he determined he would not consider another relationship before he is ready to get marry, as his work contract will finish end Aug so he look for a relationship online and we come across. i keep doubting him whether he is a faker, i keep doubting him and we have argued for more than 4 times in these 3 months plus, he had sent me 3 pictures in May,he had called me once a month ago but our conversation last only say 15mins because i was too nervous getting his call, he said because of his work in iraq it is difficult to make phone call often, and they are not permitted to use skype sort of things to call online. i said to him how would i know if pics he sent me is real him and the voice i heard is really him, but after few times arguement i feel he is still determine to me and not giving up, but for myself i keeping myself not to think too positive there might have something get wrong, i just cannot believe i would be so lucky to get a guy like him. Anyway he said he will come to my place in Sept so soon after everything will be revealed, i think my doubt will have answer. I want to ask, how would i know if he is not a married guy? I ask this because i don't know if he said he is single is true or not, i am not an American, i dont know if there is anyway can prove that he is not a married man.
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reader, happy140  +, writes (11 August 2011):
 Try "Bennverified" and no I would NEVER consider marring someone I had NOT MET in person-NEVER
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2011): hon, please don't be cheated. u can find millions of such lovers on the net. this is not a new thing. they just have pleasure being loved by many women. i had two internet lovers and cought them red handed flirting with others. make another account and try to chat with him and see. he does the same with any woman. u r not special to him. u r just one of them. they are good players. that's cyber world
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI feel very sad to hear this....i dont know what to do, i dont know what would happen to me in the coming months...i am bit worry! If fact in the past weeks i seen article in internet about similar things. Would anyone can give suggestion, if you were me, what should i do now? should i verify, in case if he is true to me? what should i ask him to find out the truth? May I know?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2011): There are a number of cases of fraudsters posing as American Servicemen befriending women on the internet so beware. If he asks you for any money do not send it, no matter how convincing it sounds (money for the flight as he is out of funds is the common line). Also, who falls in love and intends to marry someone they have never met, only emailed. I suspect this is not all it seems. So be careful not to get hurt or ripped off.
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (10 August 2011):
 Ooo doll now that I've suggested that I'm wondering if you actually have it in your country. In NZ the electrol role is a thing you go on when you register to vote. Do you have to register to vote in your country? It does seem weird that someone would be considering marriage before meeting so I think you are right to be wondering. As I said before tread really carefully. He could be 100% on the up and up but equally he could be bad to the bone so protect yourself!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks happy140 of your reply, could you suggest any "online backgroup check" company, i know nothing about it! And i just search the name in goggles search....cannot sure which ones are.....puzzling! To a man point of view, will man consider marry a woman without meeting in real??
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks a lot Moo's Mum for your reply, may i know what is the website of that "electrol roles"? I've searched for a while but not sure what is the exact link, sorry to bother!
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reader, Moo's Mum +, writes (9 August 2011):
Check him out on electrol roles and births deaths and marriages. These are public records. Listen to your inner voice of caution and tread carefully don't commit to anything until you are 100% happy. Our inner voices are our safety barometers and we need to respect them.
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reader, happy140 +, writes (9 August 2011):
Have you Googled his name? Try one of those online back ground check companies. You probably have enough info to ensure you lookup the right guy. You can never be sure nowadays so a small $30. or so fee is a small price to pay for your security.
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