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writes:I am going to the heart of my city to see theater show on NYE, am catching a bus due to traffic.. is this safe as a single woman alone.?I am alone caching a bus home after the show at 10.30-11pm, before midnights events/fireworks etc.. there will be idiots around yes, and bus maybe full as it free travel between 6pm and 4am.. is this ok I do this ? I am all alone, over 30 and noone to go with me.. am looking forward to the show.. or should I drive and risk traffic and high parking costs..I am happy to see show alone and no i have noone to go with me.. no nastiness please, not all of us have plenty of friends.is this OK i do this? if I am careful.. Reply to this Question
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (11 December 2016):
 I agree that walking around New York City at night is safer than one would think, but , the OP is from Australia....I doubt she will wait for the ball to drop in Times Square :)
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reader, person12345  +, writes (11 December 2016):
 I'm very familiar with NYC and I would advise against driving and parking on NYE there. It is guaranteed to be the most stressful driving experience of your life!
The bus will likely be full of people. If you are nervous take uber or a cab to and from the bus stop and avoid port authority terminal if you can (can be sketchy at night). It's really not that unsafe to be walking around NYC at night, especially on a crowded night like NYE. If you can, I find the trains much more pleasant than the bus. Just avoid "sketchy" places, like don't walk through the park, avoid most of Harlem at night, etc... But the downtown areas are going to be bustling with people.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (10 December 2016):
 The high price of parking could be the price of safety. The city(any city) is wrought with dangers. I don't blame you for feeling unsafe. Why not drive and pay the parking fee. If you can legally carry a firearm or mace do that too. Like my grandmother always said "It's a bad thing to be out after dark. and nothing good ever happens after midnight."
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (9 December 2016):
I'd drive too. Yes it's going to be more expensive- I'd just factor in the extra cost, and extra time to deal with traffic safely ; but hey, it's once a year- or at least, an exception , not a regular occurrence , I suppose. So if for once you are indulging yourself with a nice show,indulge yourself some more , add the parking costs and buy yourself the peace of mind of not having to think how safely and comfortably you'll reach home in the bus.
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reader, Ivyblue +, writes (9 December 2016):
 Personally I would drive because you cant put a price on your safety, simply- it's just not worth it. Nor would I use an Uber service either because they are not regulated in the same ways as taxis etc. Therefore may pose a serious risk as any Tom Dick or Harry could be behind the wheel. Can you take a family member who would enjoy a night out?
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (9 December 2016):
 Oh sorry, I misread, I thought you said NYC when I see now you wrote NYE. Well in that case, how well do you know your own city? This all comes down to how comfortable you are walking the streets alone at night.
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reader, chigirl +, writes (9 December 2016):
Are you familiar with NYC, or have lived in other large cities?
I think you will be as safe as any woman walking around anywhere else in the world. Which means, no, we're never safe, but the risk isn't that much higher than usual.
Don't drink. If you are sober, and drunk guys start to bother you, you will outsmart them in a heartbeat. When sober, and they are drunk, you think faster, move faster and pay closer attention to detail, while they will perhaps be stumbling and being unfocused. So I would say, as long as you are sober you have the upper hand on any potential drunk idiot.
How far do you need to take the bus?
If it's not far I think it's fine. If you need to ride it for an hour I would consider not going.
Bring your phone and agree to call a friend when you're going home, so that you have someone on the phone with you. That way they will know exactly where and when if someone attacked you.
The best way to answer this question is: do you feel comfortable going to this event alone? If yes, then I think you should go. If no, then don't.
I would probably go if I were you, but then again I've lived in Moscow which is known for it's high crime rate, I've traveled alone on multiple occasions to other countries. I moved out of home when I was 16, so been independent for quite some time now. I even went clubbing alone in Moscow when I was 17 and catching rides with strangers etc. Now THAT was living on the edge, lol.
Im not saying nothing can happen, sure something can happen. But if you're thinking in terms of someone trying to rape you or rob you, the chances are no higher on this particular day than any other day, as long as you are sober.
Stay away from back alleys and dark places, parks and streets with few or no people in them. Don't bring loads of money, don't flash your money about, don't use your newest and most expensive phone (Im sure you have an old one you can bring and use?). Pretend to be walking with a group if you see one.
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reader, Anonymous 123 +, writes (9 December 2016):
 I wouldn't go... Because it's not worth the risks that it entails. You're hoping that the bus "maybe" full. What if it isn't?
It's perfectly fine to be alone and New Year's Eve is just another day; I dont even see what all the hype about it is.
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (9 December 2016):
 The police in my state/town/area have a facebook page, why don't you check to see if your state does as well, you could also put your question to them, most police forces know the likely trouble spots and make sure those areas have extra police. Contact the bus lines and ask what security they will have in place.
If you are not happy or still feeling uncomfortable then yes, factor in, and budget for, self drive and expensive parking, sometimes the cost is justified.
Enjoy the show :-)
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