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writes:Hi there all, iv met this guy a month ago on internet, i do like him alot, he lives near me too.jus from talking, i can tell we get on well.we swapped numbers and talk everyday, through sms.And we flirt like crazy.I asked if he wanted meet, and he told me i should give him time, because hes really shy.Im cool with that, cuz i think hes worth the wait.only thing is, im struggling to keep our conversations interesting. i know he should help keep em interesting too, but i understand because hes shy. I Know hes not been very lucky in love , i havnt either, but i do have a little more confidence than him. How can i keep him interested, and make him know that i wouldnt mess him around, and really do wanna make a go of this, because i really think he could be good bf material. Thanks in advance
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhi all, yes ed1337, we have seen eachothers pics.
He says hes got more confidence txtin me 4 the mean time, wants to get to know me better b4 we meet, is that such a bad thing?
Fair enough after another month of talkin , if he still wont meet me then ill call it a day. but still in the mean time, i wanna keep things interesting. but i think ill tone the txts down, to see if does anything, but i thought he might think iv lost interest, and not txt me because hes not confident enough to, if he thinks im not interested, feels like it could be hit or miss.
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reader, Ed1337 +, writes (16 December 2008):
 Have you exchanged pictures yet? I'm also very shy and I met someone off the internet 3 weeks ago. After a week of chatting to her, I realised that I was falling for her and I really wanted to meet her and my shyness wasn't going to get in the way.
If after a month you don't know what he looks like and he is too "shy" to meet, I think you should move on. If however you know what he looks like and your attracted to him, maybe start texting him less, make him scarred that your going to move on if he doesn't get the balls to meet you.
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reader, Crafter  +, writes (16 December 2008):
 Can I suggest to actually confront him?
Cause being shy is not a personality trait, it's a sickness and the only cure is to fight it. Time won't help him and I know it from my personal experience.
You're best bet is to ask him out and tell him that it's now or never. If that doesn't get him going then he's not all that into you. Tell him that you understand how he feels, but the longer you wait, the harder it will be for both of you. And meeting somebody is much more different than the internet. Things just change. Not for the worse, but it's different.
Force him out. Think of something. Go see "The Day the Earth Stood Still", take him out to a gallery, go hang out in a tea house - do something, but don't postpone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2008): hi
its not always the best place to meet people on the internet. if u feel he is genuine then go for it. just talk about things that interest you and ask wat he likes. u shud be ok from there good luck
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