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writes: So, I have a boyfriend named *Joe and he is absoutley perfect. We've been going out for a long time and he's a dream come true. He does everything for me and treats me like a princess. I'm truly in love with him and I can see myself spending the rest of my life with him. Problem is, I have a best guy friend named *Leo. We've been best friends for over 2 years now. He's so fun to talk to and we get along great. As much as I hate to admit it, I have a more fun time with him than *Joe. When were together we just laugh about everything. But *Leo has so many qualitles I would hate in a boyfriend. He's very immature and my best friend was in love with him for years. I'm trying really hard to ignore the feelings for Leo and move on with my life with Joe, but I don't know how.Any tips?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks so much everyone your all so nice :]
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2009): This is why I feel you should not become more of a best friend with someone other than your boyfriend. I do not believe you can only be friends with the opposite sex. You need to set who your priority is or someone is going to get hurt. Also think about it if you were in your mans shoes.
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reader, Psyence  +, writes (13 March 2009):
 i think it's fine to have more fun with a guy friend than with your boyfriend. i had that with my boyfriend of 4 years [ we broke up last year due to distance, nothing to do with friends! ] - i had an awesome time with our friend alasdair, like we could talk about everything under the sun but i could not ever even dream of dating him! i had plenty of fun with my boyfriend but alasdair was different. think of it this way - if leo was a girl it would be fine for you two to have more fun together than with you and joe [ unless you're bi, of course ^^; ]. i imagine it is only because he's a guy that we feel this way. focus on the bad qualities in him to remind yourself that joe is better than him relationship wise.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2009): I hear you so loud its unreal. im with my bf of 3 yrs and love him verymuch but have so much more of a laugh with my best friend. I love my bf but im falling hard for the friend too and he told me recently he loves me. its made me address my feelings but i had to choose one of them for my own good, i dont talk so much with my friend now but the feelings are still there and i miss him like crazy but i think of all the reasons we are friends and why a relationship woulnt work - this keeps me more focused on my partner.
i can honestly say th more time passes the easier it gets in many ways but the pangs are there still. you just have to focus on what you want because otherwise it might get messy and someone (like my friend i didnt choose) did, unintentionally.
I hope you figure things out. i live regretting the what if id chosen to go the other path, but again , i remember wy it wouldnt work too - hang in there
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