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writes:I am 23 and I have only had one girl friend who broke my heart, the reason why I dont date a lot is mainly because of that and I am slighty shy around the oppsite sex.Anyways here is my Question where can I meet women who will not cheat on me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2012): The same place that you meet people who will never get cancer and die on you.
Which is...
There is no such place.
People cheat for reasons that are internal, that they often don't even realize. They think they know why they are doing it, but they aren't even close. It is often just like a cancer, it grows in their relationships, and leads to the cheating, and they don't see it growing, recognize it for what it is, and sometimes never do.
They don't cheat because of the other partner.
Be true to yourself, and your partner, that is the best you can do. In fact, it is all you can do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2012): Buddy, it is a hit and miss proposition. You are probably never going to be sure about such things. Probably this is not just with women, but it is with men, also. People often don't like me saything this here, but I still believe one of the best places to meet nice girls and honest girls is at church, provided that you are a church goer and even believe in going to church. Other than than that, I don't know what you do. Just pray and just use your instincts.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2012): Hi,There is no such thing as a manual that will tell you exactly how to tell cheaters from honest and faithful people. But, what you can do is try to make friends with different girls, and see how they are as friends. Do they keep their word? Are they good confidant? Do they speak openly about their feelings? All these questions might help you spot the honest ones, but there is no guarantee of anything. You should try meeting people at youth clubs, at your high school/university/work, you could also try online dating. I think the best way to find out about someone is by taking your time when getting to know them. I mean rushing from friends to lovers and being physically intimate and then discovering they haven't been entirely honest with you can be painful. So, my advice is take your time, try to meet the girl and her friends and use your common sense.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (16 February 2012):
 Ah if only it worked that easily...
sadly finding someone is trial and error... and as they say you have to kiss a lot of frogs to find your princess...
do you belong to any groups or religious organizations... a church youth group might work.. or for me I always strongly suggest my hobby which is gaming but then there are more men than women in gaming usually so it's easier for women to meet men...
are you in school? maybe from school
or a service organization?
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (16 February 2012):
 I suggest that you avoid cheatin' women by having any prospective date take a test, when you meet them.... This will be a written test, which they answer with a pencil (YOU provide both the test paper and the pencil!)...
The test will have just one question... which is:
"Is there any chance that you will cheat on me?" Yes __, No___
That should ferret out any philandering tarts!!!!
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (16 February 2012):
 There is no one place you can meet women who dont cheat - you simply have to be able to judge a woman's personality to see whether she seems like a good moral person, or whether she is a massive flirt who is constantly surrounded by men. Normally that gives it away - however even some of the really flirty girls would never cheat, they just enjoy flirting.
Relationships are massive leaps of faith - there is a line from a song I love that summs this up perfectly:
"Where you invest your love, you invest your life"
There are no gurantees in love, you can never be sure if you will find someone who will never cheat - you just have to trust them and hope for the best. You cannot be sure of anything in life, certianly not whether someone will cheat or not. If you meet someone you like, they are a good person, and they like you - well that is all you can ask for and then you just have to trust them and hope that it will all work out.
And if it doesnt work out - you just have to get back on the horse so to speak. Falling off a horse hurts, but the best way to overcome your fears is to get back on again. Same goes with relationships - dont let fear hold you back, this was just one girl and you cannot tarnish all girls with the same brush, they wont all be like her.
After all, it is better to have loved and lost than never loved at all. Cheesy I know, but imagine going through life never experiencing love, it would be pretty rubbish wouldnt it? Yes love hurts, it sucks a lot of the time, but that is the nature of the beast unfortunately.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (16 February 2012):
 Faithful Girlfriends R Us?
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