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writes:My husband cheated on me a few months after my cancer surgeries and radiation. I found out he not only had an affair but moved in with her. See he had a job with the state and our move was delayed because of my cancer and a bunch of things. So he said he left her, and we bought a new home near where he works (4 1/2 hours from where I was with our daughters). Over xmas our daughters who just went away to college in the fall helped us move in, then they went back to school. Then I had a follow up appt. and my daughter took me. When I got back I found out the day after we left he went to her house because she threw her back out at the gym because she was so upset he bought me a house. He had sex with her and was there the 3 days I was gone. Then he came back home, a week and a half later he went to the gym and never came back. That was 4 months ago. He comes over from time to time, mows the lawn, says not to make it harder on him. When I asked if he wanted me with other men he practically ran out of the house. What is going on? We have been together since 1979 32 years.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2010): I am sorry to hear the situation,
Some times i feel that in the recent decades women have made themselves just to accessible to men and this has resulted in to the loss of family values and marriages. In your case he got some one else there to find a emotional and physical satisfaction and he left you for the same. I am not aware of severity of desease and how much time you really have, is it cured or not? etc?
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you need to be practical here, i would not advice you to leave him, coz, it will complicate your remaining life further. i feel you kids will be with you, surely - right? and he can not leave kids ultimately, so he will come back.
so try to have kids with you. No need to leave him and all. You may still need money to get treated.
so all i am saying is that be practical and not emotional and take the directions accordingly. It is obvious that he has one women in his hand and he will keep spending time with her. ( NOt an ideal things ).
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2010): Tell him not to worry about mowing the lawn, see an attorney and start moving your life forward.
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reader, wearywife +, writes (12 June 2010):
He is not noth it! walk away! you can do better then that! He has feelings for this other woman obviously so if u want to live like that go ahead but keep in mind that u still can find someone who is willing to love you the way you love them.
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