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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Dear readers, My mother and father divorced when I was 8 years old. He moved across Texas to be with family and ended up with this woman he had known for years before (I met her when I was 2). They got married shortly after my parents divorced and have been together ever since. Over the Thanksgiving holiday we went to my family farm and the whole family was there. I could tell something was off with my dad and my step mom was just more grumpy than usual. She started saying things about me and my husband and I talked to my step sister about it. She pretty much said don’t listen to her she’s drama and making things up, the same weekend my step mom and sister had some issues of their own. During our conversation she threw in there that my step mom is "causing drama and being grumpy because she is not happy in her marriage" this was actually said to my husband by my step-sister so I didn’t hear it first hand. That concerned me because I knew my dad was acting weird. We had already left on our journey across the state back home. So I didn’t talk face to face with him but I did call him to ask if he is ok. He said he is fine. I debated telling him what my step sister had said and ultimately did not mention it to him. I talked to him yesterday just about Christmas because he plans to come my way for the holiday. I mentioned something my son had said about my dad and step mom. My son said "I need to buy Mimi (step mom) and Papa (dad) a present for Christmas" and my dad thought it was so cute. He told my step mom what Junior had said and I couldn’t hear if she said anything or what she said but my dad said to me "gosh she’s being a real brat" and i said "why" and he said "that is just the way she is now" and I said "why" and he said "she is mad at the world" and I then asked if they two were doing ok and all he said was that he is "trying to". And that was pretty much the end of the conversation, he asked to hang up. I am worried about my dad. He has been married 3 times. Once before I was born, second to my mom and third to my step mom for about 13 years now. I thought they were happy. My step mom is obviously not, she is a hard person to get along with normally and I could really see her meanness during thanksgiving. She seemed to have an issue with everyone and everything and actually left early. I talked to my aunt yesterday and the family had just had the Christmas party and gift exchange last night. She said that my step mom was not with my dad.Due to me never living with my dad, I just don’t know how his day to day goes. I feel uncomfortable asking if he and my step mom a really ok or if they are having issues. But I feel like I should. He is much like me, doesn’t like to talk about downer things when we talk barely once a week as it is. He just doesn’t want to worry me with his life issues; I know he is that way because I am the same way. But just like me, he must have issues. How can I bring this up with him and actually get some details from him? Maybe I can help?
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reader, not fat +, writes (20 December 2010):
you should stay out of it. times are hard on all of us. putting yourself in the middle of this will only add to the drama
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