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writes:Me and this guy have been seeing each other over the past year. We break up, then get back together.. and so on. We both love each other, and I dont know if its just me but I realy have the feeling we were made for each other. Yeah sounds stupid, huh? And im not into all that romancy stuff, HE is the romantic. Anyway..Well we broke up yet again but then pretty much everytime we met we got off. So we were kinda 'seeing' each other. And so I went further with him, not sex or anything. But now its a few weeks later and he doesnt want a relationship because hes scared of getting hurt. AT least thats what he says. I know hes been flirting with another girl and I feel so used. He says hes happy how we are but im not! Also he gets realy jealous when I mention other guys, and hates the thought of me with them (just as i do with him and other girls, but I dont put it quite so bluntly) and im so confused!I feel as though I should just leave him, but i cant, i realy cant. How can I get us back in a relationship again?Please help me.
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reader, Angiebaby1993 +, writes (14 April 2008):
 Try talking to him ? i know you might be scared to i know im like that but it will help hell either accept how you feel or wont in which case youll have to move on which i know is even harder :\ good luck :)
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reader, mellons +, writes (14 April 2008):
Dear confused
It is clear that there are no boundaries in this relationship. It also seems to me that your boyfriend is trying to get the best of both worlds - one he plays with you when you are available,willing and he is in the mood. Secondly, the relationship with you will allow him to have his own way all the time and will not have to be committed to you on a long term basis.
You are confused because you believe that you are in love with him and that you are made for each other. Yet, it seems to me you cannot understand fully the key reasons for the break ups. This I would say, is simply because he is a player and is reluctant to settle with one person at this moment.
It is up to you whether you decide to continue with this marginal relationship but I would suggest that you start thinking about your own self respect and self worth before he finally do the dumping first.
Good Luck
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