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anonymous
writes:after 3 years of a virtual life with my long distance girlfriend that i have never met, she leaves me !!i cant believe this is happening, im crazy in love with her and so was she, but lately she was acting so weird, she always uses the excuse that i am too controlling even though we never met, but i wasnt controlling lately at all. i was really cool with whatever she does coz i really trusted her,but now she leaves me after 3 years and wwe havent even met, its drivin me crazy knowin that someone else would get to kiss and touch her while i havent done that !!! thats drivin me really crazy. i really love her and i dont know if i can ever forget about her really !!she thinks i feel sorry for myself coz i keep tellin her i love her but she doesnt care ! and now we just dont talk anymore coz i have my dignity but i still cant take her out of my mind !!what should i do ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you all for your answers, she sent me an email saying ' I love You :( '
i dont know what that girl is thinkin seriously !! after a hardcore conversation, she tells me this :S !!!
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reader, Lucky786  +, writes (20 April 2011):
 I agree with DB.
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (20 April 2011):
 "its drivin me crazy knowin that someone else would get to kiss and touch her while i havent done that !!!"
And that's why long distance relationships DON'T work! It's just a constant tease that never gets better until you're actually together. After 3 years if you haven't even been in the same room together once, this "relationship" is not going anywhere. She finally came to her senses, and you need to as well.
Relationships are about trying to find people to BE with. Internet friends are great, I have some good ones, but that is not what makes a good romantic relationship. In order for a romantic relationship to happen, you NEED to be together.
If you want to get her off your mind, it will take time and space. It won't happen instantly. Part of your heart will always be with her, and that's also to be expected.
I highly suggest that you learn from this experience and realize that romantic relationships are best local, so that you can spend that real time together, doing all the things real couples do.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (20 April 2011):
 you need to get out and make friends where you live.
I believe that LDR relationships can work... IF
1. you've actually met the person
2. you have an end date when you will no longer be LDR
3. you have actual physical contact on a regular basis
it does not appear that any of these criteria were met in your case.
You need to let her go....
you need to find yourself and move on...
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (20 April 2011):
 You need to snap back in to the real world. Am sorry but how can you call that a real relationship? You never met her you where living in a virtual world. Two people in a relationship need quality time for it to work. Who is to say that once you finally met this girl she was just not for you. It was only companionship you had over the internet dont fool yourself in to believing it was more.
I am truely sorry that you are left feeling like this. The internet relationship has been a big part of your life for three years and I can accept that but you need to get out in to the real world and meet girls your own age and face value. Accept that this girl doesnt want to be with you and go out and meet new people in the real world. Goodluck.
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